How to understand that a man is gone forever. Men Always Come Back Types of Ex-Boyfriends to Avoid

The fair half of humanity has many questions that they are looking for answers to and cannot find. Girlfriends share their secrets with each other, just as daughters tell their mothers “secret” information regarding their personal lives. After all, the relationship between a man and a woman is something special and fascinating.

If a woman consults a specialist, then most likely 99% will hear the phrase that she doesn’t need to delve into what others tell her, otherwise she will do a lot of stupid things and make a lot of mistakes. But how should a woman behave in a situation when a man first leaves and then returns. How can she understand the logic of his actions and actions? Let's look at the most popular questions.

How often do men return to their ex-woman?

Based statistics- more than 50% of men returned at least once after leaving their woman. Why do men so often, having decided on desperate measures, strive to turn everything back? Several reasons can be described here. The first and, perhaps, most important thing is that they realized how wrong they were. The second reason is that they are tormented by nostalgia, which in reality is just a force of habit. A man will repeatedly remember his ex-woman, especially in the first two to three months. He will find shared photos, gifts from his beloved or a memory in his head. And he will scroll through them over and over again, remembering and torturing himself more and more.

Psychology of men who will return

To man left, he must have a good reason, to just break off the relationship, pack his things and leave the woman with whom he lived side by side for many years, this is very difficult in terms of morality. If a man is looking for a reason to leave his woman, it means that he is weak morally; he cannot decide whether he should stay or whether it would be better to break off the relationship.

He has constant doubts, he is in the middle of the bridge and does not know which way he should go. Such men are indecisive and irresponsible, they will try with all their might to find a reason for a scandal, in order to once again find out that the woman does not suit him, and picturesquely leave the apartment with their things.

Some people might hate them of people, someone does not understand them, but when the same situation occurs to you, you understand how wrong you were from the outside. After all, there is nothing more difficult than understanding what you want, who you want and where you want to go.

Psychology of men who are unlikely to return

Not returned men who have a strong character and a clear goal in front of them. They do not return to those women who cheated on a man or caused very severe pain. Men appreciate it when there is peace, tranquility and happiness in the family, because where, if not here, can they take a break from work and people, see their loved ones and please them?

This is not to say that everything depends on. The more likely truth will be the coincidence of all factors that come together to help a man make his decision - whether to return or not.

Psychology of men who will never return

Won't come back men who even before the breakup followed the logic - “I said - I did”, who make decisions quickly, and do not spend a lot of time thinking about the consequences, they just take it and do it. Such a man has a strong and steely character and he knows what he wants. And let him later regret a thousand times that he did just that, but no one will know or notice.

If a man finds a new girl or woman, with whom he began to develop a trusting relationship, with whom he feels like a king, and she feels like a queen, where in a relationship care for each other and love come first, then what is the point of a man returning to his former family?

The influence of reasons for leaving on the likelihood of a man returning

What already mentioned earlier in the text, the reason for leaving is one of the most important factors when breaking up a relationship. If a faithful and loving wife is waiting for a man at home, who will not overburden her husband’s house over trifles, then why should the man leave? The male sex is famous for its habits, in other words, if a man is happy with everything, then what is the point of ruining everything and going into the unknown?

If man left after a serious quarrel in the heat of anger, which means there is a high probability that he will return when he cools down. A person has such a temperament and such a psychology of thinking. He needs to take a walk in the fresh air, think about everything, calm down, and only then can he return home.

Men never return... No matter how much we dream of this happening. Men go to other women and sometimes love them much more than us, having already been taught by us, becoming more mature and experienced.
Men don’t really remember us much. They do not have this very “memory” that keeps us awake at night. They do not pick out episodes from this long or short film of our relationship. Men go to someone. And that other one replaces our entire world for them, without which, it would seem, they cannot live. They can. And at the same time they remain very happy and satisfied. Now we are not talking about how long they will be happy with this other one. Time passes and changes everything, like a river, the current of which inexorably carries water to some goal, to some deep waters of the seas and oceans, in order to dissolve in them and be absorbed by them...
Men never return. Because for them reflection is death. They cannot think about their feelings, about the truth. They must survive in this world, they must be fueled by new energies. We, the abandoned ones, remain read books for them... Yes, you can sometimes flip through your favorite pages that have been read to holes, but nothing more. New books and new women surround us everywhere, so unique, so dear, so beloved. We selflessly love them and drunks and madmen and traitors and idiots. We feel sorry for them and love them and think that only we can make them happy, and only we know how to live better for them and what to do. But this is our illusion, which we live with for years and which we cherish even after we have been abandoned. After we were shown in concrete and practical terms: darling, you mean nothing to me at the moment. Thank you, of course, for whatever you want, but I don’t need you. I'm fine without you. And come on, don’t suffer, everything will be fine!
The men leave and close the door behind them forever. And we continue to wait for them. We dig ourselves into an even greater illusion, which is already associated with pain and suffering. And we so want to get out of it and plunge into it even more hoping that they will return to us. It's a vicious circle. And there is only one way to get out of it.
Face the truth and burn your illusion in fire (choose the fire yourself - the fire of love, the fire of anger or suffering). You are different people. You have nothing in common anymore, even if you share children and apartments. He is the same Vasya Petrov, like everyone else Vasya passing by. HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. He can stroke his pride by seeing your suffering, and even communicate with you sometimes, but he is NOT YOUR MAN. He betrayed you! Betrayed your feelings, betrayed your past, betrayed your dreams of happiness. So FORGET HIM!
How can you forget? If thoughts themselves creep into your head, if any mention of him causes waves and peace immediately turns into some kind of riot of emotions. Very simple.
Understand a simple thing: Men never return! Don't wait for it and don't deceive yourself and don't feed your Ego with empty hopes. He sleeps in the arms of another, she feeds him with her cooking, she saws him, and she owns him. You are no longer in his life. The book lies on a shelf among other tattered books.
One hope is that some other Reader will take up reading it. But that is another story….

(c) from comments on Alice Shel’s article “Men always come back”

Our life is amazingly paradoxical. There is a paradox already in the path of life itself, and in the technique of Transurfing. For example, when a guy leaves, you suffer: you cry, tear out the hair on your head, hysterical like crazy, beg the fugitive to return, swear eternal crazy love. And guess what? He will never return to you. According to the transurfing technique, you must immediately calm down and live your life, while enjoying it to the point of madness. And be sure that after some time he will crawl back like a darling. No, isn't this crazy? You have lost a loved one, this is a collapse. But you dance and smile. When you realize what happened and what you are doing, you are simply in shock. But at the same time, the fugitive returns. Yes, this is one of life's paradoxes.
The more indignant you are, the further the person moves away from you. And when you live your full life, rarely remembering this creature at all, then it becomes obsessed with you, crawling on your knees. This usually happens when you are especially determined to get rid of the person. And he returns to you even more decisively. Tears all obstacles in its path.
I survived it all. I brought men back using the transurfing technique. I will give you some tips that will help you do what I once managed to do:
1) First you need to put yourself in a calm state. Don't allow yourself to act automatically in complete dejection. If necessary, force yourself.
2) You need to come up with some kind of business (or maybe you already have one) to which you can devote yourself entirely. Set goals for yourself and go towards them, no matter what.
3) Do the same daily activities that you did before.
4) Do your best to cheer yourself up. Every day, about 5 or more times, read the following thought forms out loud and to yourself (I am the most beautiful. I am the smartest. I have a brilliant brain and brilliant ideas come to my head. I am exceptional. I am the standard. At the moment, the “name” is thinking about me. "Name" loves me. "Name" suffers for me. Before the eyes of "name" there is my image. I am "name" in all his dreams).
5) Undoubtedly, you will have to call, write, or object. Sometimes I gave in to them. And she ruined everything. Because in the end it ended in a showdown and my hysterics. Better keep quiet.
6) Believe. Convince yourself that your loved one is about to return to you. Believe with your heart.
7)Using visualization techniques, imagine a meeting with your loved one and your future destiny together. (15 minutes in the morning and before bed).
8) Control your thoughts. Think about what you want to get. And ignore all negative thoughts.
9) Always act as if you are happy.
10) And remember, there is no instant result. But if you still control yourself and wait, the result will come.
Of course, it’s easier to lie on the couch and cry from powerlessness. It is much more difficult to pull yourself together and take some action. But I believe in you and I believe that you can control yourself.

One of the hardest things about separation or divorce is that the person who used to be the center of your universe no longer wants to be a part of your life. And the worst thing about this, besides the pain of parting, changing habits, social circle, material and emotional components, picture of the world and plans for the future, is when you remain suspended in the air, not being sure whether to expect him back or not.

However, knowing for sure that your ex doesn't want to come back, you should move on, no matter how hard it is. If you don't, you'll end up spending a lot of time waiting in sterility and grief while your ex freely enjoys his new life.

Here are 10 signs that will help you understand whether you should count on reconciliation:

1. Your ex isn't returning your calls or texts.

It's normal if he doesn't respond a few days after the breakup. Maybe he just needs time and space away from you to think and make a decision. However, if after weeks and months he doesn't bother to "see" your messages and never picks up the phone or calls back, even if you call every day, then it's clear that the person no longer wants to communicate with you.

1. All your items and/or gifts have been returned.

It's usually difficult to get things back after a breakup if you still love the person because it means letting them go forever. That's why if your ex gives you what you gave him, returns photos and your personal items, it could be a sign that he has already let you go.

1. Your ex makes no effort to reconcile, and your efforts are taken for granted.

If after several weeks or months you are still doing everything to get him back but he doesn't seem to care, then you might want to stop. You're just wasting time. If a person still wants you back, he will not ignore you for a long time because he cannot take the fact of breaking up with you for granted.

1. He tells you, "I'm tired."

When a person gets tired of a relationship, he does not want to continue it. So, if your ex tells you that he is tired of you, then accept this fact and then stop insisting on meeting. You better give him space and time to rest: if the reason is only fatigue, taking a break from each other can help both you and him rethink your relationship and make a final decision.

1. His family no longer accepts you.

Usually, if you are welcomed and acknowledged in your boyfriend or husband's home, you become part of the family. So whenever you two fight with each other, they will tell you to reconcile. They will even bring you back to make peace. However, if the family is already cold towards you this time, it may be because your ex has made it clear to them that he doesn't want to come back anymore.

1. Your ex doesn't want to see you.

If your ex still loves and wants to care for you, then he will be dying to see you again. However, if after several invitations from you for lunch or coffee, your ex does not agree to meet, then he is not interested in getting back to you.

What about accidentally bumping into each other? If your ex seems unfazed and not happy to see you after weeks or months of separation, then it means he doesn't want to hear from you or see you anymore. If the person is still not indifferent to you, then the moment of meeting would be especially emotional for him.

1. He openly talks about new relationships and freely posts information about them on social networks.

Even if you've already broken up, if your ex still loves you, he won't want you to suffer. No loving man will do anything that would completely push you away, because he still hopes for reconciliation. However, if he is already dating someone else, and especially if he is doing it publicly, it means that you were simply not aware of the infidelity. And then you already know exactly the answer to the question of whether to wait for your ex back or not.

1. He doesn't care if you're dating someone new.

Likewise, if your ex doesn't seem to care that you've already found someone new, then he's no longer with you. If he is still in love, he usually expresses anger or bitterness directly or indirectly. He can stand up to his opponent and can even make you and him realize that he wants you back.

1. You are told that you deserve someone better.

This line of behavior is a cliche commonly used when "throwing" someone out of a relationship. This excuse is usually used by a man to relieve himself of the guilt of hurting someone. Someone who truly loves their partner will do whatever it takes to earn that person's attention. So, if your ex keeps using this trick on you every time you try to get back with him, you need to understand what his words really mean.

1. He seems happy and content with his current life.

If the breakup wasn't a loss for your ex, then it shows in his behavior. Yes, it's normal for him to miss you, but if he seems to have settled down without you, then maybe he thinks breaking up was a good decision. You can see this if he doesn't appear tense, gloomy, or lifeless—common signs when a person is going through a difficult time.

If you notice at least half of the signs listed above, then do not be under any illusions: he will not return. Believe me, everything will still be okay, and life doesn't end when the love for you passes. There are still many reasons to continue living. Don't focus on your loss. Instead, be grateful for the affection you receive and appreciate the people who continue to be with you.

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Instructions

First, you need to remember that men disappear from your life from time to time. That's their nature. The reason for this phenomenon is the desire to arouse the jealousy of your beloved, in order to once again be convinced of her love and increase your sense of self-worth. That is why it is necessary to find out what is the reason for the current situation. Perhaps you had a fight not long ago, or your relationship has simply stabilized, and the young man just wants a little freedom. Maybe he needs to spend time with his friends only, without you, several times a week. In any case, before drawing conclusions, it is necessary to carefully analyze the situation, taking into account all the details.

Often, men tend to say thoughtless words to their significant other. That is why, if during a quarrel you hear the phrase “I don’t love you,” you should not blindly and unconditionally believe it. Most likely, this phrase was said only in a fit of anger, but in fact he does not think so. If he didn't have feelings for you, he would have left a long time ago.

If there has been no warmth, affection and support in your relationship for a long time, you should think about whether there are feelings between you. Of course, if your passion has simply cooled down a little over the years, you can try to “rekindle” it again, but if it simply doesn’t exist, there’s no point in trying. Yes, breaking up is not so easy, but sometimes it is the only way out of the current situation. Just remember that nothing happens by chance in your life. Any parting will definitely be followed by a new meeting.

Before looking for the answer to the question “is a man”, you need to analyze your behavior. Maybe you spend too much time at work and pay little attention to your lover. Do not forget that women by nature tend to dramatize. They can make a big problem out of a small, insignificant quarrel, making a mountain out of a molehill. Of course, any event can cause people to move away, but this does not mean that your relationship is over. In any case, remember, if a man decides to leave, he will definitely inform you about it in a calm atmosphere.

You can understand one thing: when a man leaves forever, he will not contact you, will not answer your calls and messages, maybe even change his phone number and place of residence. Most likely, he will ask his friends not to tell you anything about his existence, he will simply disappear. Your lover’s new relationship can also make you understand that you will never be together again.