Perhaps everyone will agree that the happy person is the one who has a loving family. But it takes a lot of work to create it. Often young people are unaware of this when they get married. The time of dating passes, and the period of grinding begins. In order to have a favorable environment at home, it is better to formulate in advance the rules of the family, which all its members will subsequently adhere to.

Family is a team

A good team not only celebrates everyone's successes, but also shares failures equally. If your husband gets a promotion at work, you should praise him and tell him how great he is for achieving this. The child learned to read - he is also smart, because he tried a lot, and he succeeded. And even if the wife made a lot of effort to achieve these successes, both the spouse and the child still get the opportunity to be proud of themselves. This will help raise self-esteem, believe in your strength and importance.

If one of the family members fails, there is no need to scold and blame him, he is probably already upset. It is better to offer to think together about the problem and its possible solutions. When speaking, you should use words such as “we” and “our” instead of “your” and “mine.” After all, a family is a unit of society that unites spouses and their children.

Family leader

Every team has a captain, and family is no exception. But only one person can become a leader. If there are two of them, then competition will begin, and even solving small everyday problems will end in a scandal every time. Therefore, it is necessary to clearly decide who is in charge in the family. The husband and wife should consult with each other and discuss who will take on the role of leader. It is worth discussing its functions in advance. At the same time, the leader does not decide everything for everyone, but only makes decisions based on the suggestions and wishes of other family members.

Is the head of the family a man?

Previously, no one ever thought about who would be the head of the family. From time immemorial it was a man. His direct responsibility was to provide the family with everything necessary. The woman kept the family hearth, took care of the house and raising children. She received everything she needed to complete her tasks from her breadwinner, that is, from a man. The head of the family was responsible for everything and made the most important decisions. Today, this arrangement suits many spouses, and they continue to adhere to it. There are no problems regarding this, and this does not prevent the family from being strong.

Can a woman be the head?

Today, if a man proposes, this does not mean that he will unconditionally be the only economic support in the family. A woman can also perform this function. Often in modern families, only children are dependent, and spouses provide for them. If a woman also earns, especially on an equal basis with a man, then it becomes unclear who is in charge in the family. Not everything is as simple here as with the old way of life.

According to sociological research, leadership in the family belongs to the spouse who performs regulatory and administrative functions. In most cases, all this is done by the woman. She plans the family budget, organizes family consumption, deals with education and household chores. It turns out that today a woman is becoming the main one in many respects, not just economically.

Who will be the head of the family?

It is worth noting that the concepts of “breadwinner” and “head of the family” are outdated. Moreover, they are absent from the Civil Code and the Constitution. Today, more and more people characterize the marital union as a family without a head. That is, men and women participate equally in decision-making and household chores. Such relationships in the family prove that it is not at all necessary to appoint a head.

Family responsibilities

Everyone in the family has their own responsibilities. If they are distributed unevenly, spouses will often have disagreements and conflicts. Such contradictions can be very acute and lead to serious consequences - dissatisfaction with the marriage. However, you need to understand that the husband and wife will still not be happy if all responsibilities are simply divided equally. It is important that they correspond to the inclinations and character of the person, then the eternal disputes about household chores will cease. The separation should suit everyone and look fair in the eyes of the spouses.

Any duty must be performed out of love and care for each other, and not because someone needs it and it is so established by the rules of the family. Examples for clarity:

1. Everyone washes the dishes themselves, because it takes a lot of mom’s time, and she wants to spend it with loved ones.

2. The husband stops at the store for groceries because he is on his way, and meanwhile the wife will already start preparing dinner. The main thing is that everyone understands why they are doing this.

No one owes nothing to nobody

It is wrong to reduce family obligations to the word “should.” For example, “I work all day long, and you just sit on my neck,” “I’m like a squirrel in a wheel, spinning around the house,” “You’re a husband, and I’m looking forward to romantic evenings with you.” The list can be endless; similar phrases are heard in many families.

You need to understand that no one owes anyone anything. This idea simply needs to be included in the family rules. If you are tired, ask your loved ones for help. If love and care reign in the house, it will not be difficult for anyone to wash the dishes or throw out the trash instead of someone else. If you want romance, you don’t need to wait and demand it from your husband; it’s enough to organize a pleasant evening yourself.

Support the authority of your husband or wife

If there is a child in the family, spouses need to adhere to the same parenting strategy. Children feel and see their parents’ disagreements well, so they will begin to cheat, dodge and look for concessions. If you need to resolve some issue of upbringing, then you should do it behind a closed door. That is, growing children should not hear anything. Then the children in the family will equally respect both mom and dad.

The same goes for discussing your other half outside the home. You can’t talk to other people about your spouse’s shortcomings, especially after a quarrel. You will definitely make peace, but outsiders will have a negative opinion. In this case, the authority of the spouse will be undermined.

In front of a child, you also can’t say nasty things about his mom or dad. Otherwise, he will believe that it is not necessary to obey a “bad” parent. Remember that your spouse is the best person in the world, so his authority must be supported. Make any decisions together. If you disagree with something, then discuss it only in private with each other.

All problems are discussed

There is no need to wait for your spouse to figure out the problem that has arisen. Perhaps he doesn't even know about it. If you are tired or upset about something, say so directly. The boss shouted - tell us about it yourself, and don’t wait for questions. The carpet is dirty, and you no longer have the strength - ask your husband to vacuum it, he himself may not even guess.

Only through communication can relationships in the family be built. Therefore, make it a rule to discuss all existing problems. You just need to do this without scandals, shouting and reproaches, in a calm tone. It is absolutely impossible to keep silent about something and isolate yourself, trying to avoid conflict. Such behavior will only create mutual misunderstanding and take problems to the extreme.

There is no need to remain silent, accumulate negativity and irritation. You need to talk openly about your thoughts and feelings. The more sincerely this is done, the easier it is to understand the reasons for discontent. Just don’t sort things out in a state of irritation or with a tipsy spouse. It is better to wait for a more opportune moment to solve the problem.

Compromise is also a solution

A strong family is one that knows how to resolve conflicts, and not one that does not quarrel. Therefore, in disputes there is no need to stand your ground. The best option for a marital union is to think in a “win-win” manner. That is, try to find a solution that will suit everyone, and not just one.

For example, you started a renovation. One spouse liked the floral wallpaper, while the other liked the striped wallpaper. There is no need to quarrel over this, look for a third option. Or you can cover one half of the room with striped wallpaper, and make the other half floral. You will get an original design with zoning.

Don't try to change the other half

When discussing the rules of behavior in the family, it is worth mentioning that attempts to change your husband or wife will not lead to anything good. Many people hope that things will be different after marriage, but in most cases this is not the case. For example, if a girl is not economical, then she may not like cooking and cleaning. Or if a man abuses alcohol, you should accept that after marriage he will not give up this business. It is very difficult to change an adult, and often simply impossible. Therefore, you need to learn to put up with your spouse’s shortcomings. If everything was fine before the wedding, then after it there should be no complaints.

Set boundaries

A family is a unit of society that consists of a husband, wife and their children. Nobody treats her anymore. All other relatives (fathers, mothers, sisters, brothers, grandmothers, grandfathers and others) are only a part of a large family. You shouldn’t let them into your life too deeply or try to please them in everything. If your parents don’t like something about your other half, but you are happy with everything, then you should tell them about it and gently ask them not to interfere in the relationship. You should also not allow relatives to look into closets, rearrange things, or read mail, unless, of course, you ask for it yourself.

After the birth of a child, the new grandmother very often practically moves into the house. She constantly comes up with advice on how to properly care for the baby. However, family rules state that boundaries must be set. For example, let the grandmother visit her grandchildren on certain days. You can ask her to do specific things: walk with the baby, stroke diapers, and so on. This way grandma will be busy and there will be less unnecessary advice.

Respect and patience for parents

It is necessary to set boundaries, but you must not forget about respect for the people who raised you and your other half. It is unacceptable to discuss the shortcomings of your parents with your spouse. It is better to focus on their good qualities. Surely the second mother cooks delicious cabbage soup, and dad is very economical. You need to demarcate the territory and talk with your spouse if the parents become too annoying and begin to interfere with family life.

Don't forget to communicate

Perhaps many will agree that the most important thing in a family is respect and... love. It mostly manifests itself in relationships and communication. Therefore, there is no need to get bogged down in routine affairs and forget about each other. Try to find time to at least talk. It's very simple - just turn off the TV or look away from the computer monitor. It would be great if there was an opportunity to go somewhere with your spouse: go to the movies or just take a walk in the park. Organize romantic evenings for each other from time to time.

Set of moral rules in the family

Every family should have a clear list of rules that will be known to each member. Moreover, they should apply not only to parents, but also to children, so that they grow up well-mannered and decent. If certain conditions are not met, a failure can be indicated. However, this must be done in a friendly and tactful manner. There should not be too many rules, otherwise the importance of the list will be lost. Also, there should be no contradictions in it, so that it is clear what should be done and what should not be done.

For example, you can introduce the following five family rules that must be strictly observed:

• love and respect each other;
• help and support in every possible way;
• do not criticize others;
• speak only the truth;
• to fulfill promises.

Of course, each family will have its own list of rules. It doesn’t have to be drawn up for the rest of your life. The list can and should be supplemented or changed depending on the circumstances.

The question “who is the boss?” is, of course, rhetorical, and we all know the answer to it very well. But these days, it’s not a bad idea to remind us from time to time who is the boss in the family, because often problems arise precisely when roles in the house are incorrectly distributed or someone wants to “take someone else’s place.”

The truth is that Allah created man and made him a support for woman. And Allah created woman and made her a source of peace for man. And if they (support and peace) unite together in peace and harmony, then in this union there will be great benefit for both of them.

The Holy Qur'an 1 says that that Allah gave a man dominance over a woman, because he gave him an advantage over her[in intelligence, determination, prudence, foresight, strength, constant observance 2, in the fact that only a man can be a Prophet, Caliph and Imam, can read the adhan, sermon, conduct Friday and collective Namaz, be witnesses on special occasions, has an advantage when distributing inheritance, in marriage, only he has the right to give a divorce, and also the pedigree is traced through the male line] and it is his responsibility to provide for his wife. From this verse it is clear that the Creator himself gave men the leadership in the family. This is stated in the Qur'an, and it cannot be denied.

Men are the stronger sex. Allah gave them an advantage over women not only in strength, but also in intelligence, prudence and other qualities. We must accept this obvious fact and not contradict what was transmitted from the Creator himself. And we say this in a general sense, meaning that in general, men are smarter and stronger than women. However, this does not exclude the possibility that a particular woman may be smarter than many men or surpass them in knowledge. For example, the wife of the Prophet ‘Aisha taught the companions of the Prophet and was the most knowledgeable of all women.

God created man and woman different and gave them different rights and responsibilities according to their characteristics. A pious Muslim woman understands that she is weaker than a man and does not seek to take his place. But a worthy man does not strive to become like a woman and does not avoid the responsibility entrusted to him.

The Messenger of Allah said: “Every person is responsible for what Allah has entrusted to him hom. The ruler is responsible and must take care of the people, the man cares and is responsible for his family, and the woman takes care of the home, husband and children. Everyone is responsible for what they are given.”

It is important to always remember this and not strive to take someone else’s place. Instead of competing, it is better to quietly carry out your duties and strive for piety, since in the end the one who fears God will be the best, regardless of whether he is a woman or a man.

A woman should not equate herself with a man and try to dominate him - this does not correspond to Muslim culture. The man should be in charge, and the woman should be under his protection and tutelage. He is a provider and support. He is the one who makes decisions, solves problems, and should have the last word. And it's actually wonderful.

And when a woman begins to behave like a man, not believing that he will take care of her, believing that he will not cope with the role of the head, then this negatively affects both of them. Such a woman becomes aggressive, dissatisfied, cruel and categorical. She strives to manage everything and constantly points out to her husband his mistakes and shortcomings. And a man next to such a woman may begin to lose his masculinity, becoming weak-willed. As a result, they are both unhappy.

A woman who seeks to dominate a man will never be happy in her marriage. If her husband has given her the reins of power and indulges her in everything, then she is dissatisfied, since women do not like weak-willed, weak men. And if he does not give her the place of leader, then she spends all her energy competing with him, conflicting and quarreling. And all this is actually a sign of her stupidity and short-sightedness.

And the wisdom of a woman is to follow her natural nature - to be soft and feminine, to admit her weakness and become a joy to her husband. Such a woman inspires a man to succeed, and thereby develops herself as a person. It gives a man the opportunity to calm down, relax and accumulate masculine strength. And he feels that she needs him and his protection, and next to such a woman he feels like a hero. This is a harmonious relationship between a man and a woman.

There are women who cannot or do not want to live in the role of a slave, or are afraid to give control to a man, not trusting him. Perhaps, even before marriage, they were accustomed to making their own decisions and taking responsibility, so they simply cannot relax and trust a man. These women can be advised to:

1. Understand that your husband is not a rival, but an ally. And the Creator himself endowed him with leadership qualities, the ability to make decisions and be the head of the family. Men are more reasonable, calm and not as susceptible to emotions as women. They have the opportunity to focus on the main thing and make an informed decision. So calm down and learn to trust him. Rest assured that you are in good hands. This advice has one more advantage - when a man feels that you trust him, then he himself wants to be with you even more and take care of you even more.
2. Learn to obey. Even if at first after marriage it will be difficult for you to step over your habits of independent living, then force yourself. Believe me, you will only benefit from this, and subordination to your husband in no way humiliates the dignity of a woman, but, on the contrary, shows her high culture.
   It is also important to always remember that, of all people, the wife's first responsibility is to obey her husband. But this does not mean that she must obey absolutely all of his demands. A wife has certain responsibilities to her husband, and they must be fulfilled unquestioningly, and in other matters there are concepts of what she would like to do and how best to act.
3. Stop correcting your husband’s behavior at every step and giving him “valuable instructions.” Usually women do this because they are afraid that he will make a mistake. But he is an adult who is able to make his own decisions and assess the consequences! Even if he makes a mistake, he is able to draw conclusions. He is the head of the family, not your child, and you are not his mother!
4. Cultivate respect for your spouse. If you want to be a queen, then treat your husband like a king. Agree with him, do not challenge his decisions, value his opinion, do not allow yourself to criticize him, find fault with him and show him your dissatisfaction. Think about how you behave around people you deeply respect. Would you make caustic remarks at them or correct their decisions?! Carry this respect into your relationship with your husband. This will have a positive impact not only on you, but also on your children, because they feel how mom treats dad, and they are happy when love and respect reign in the family.
5. Don't be ashamed to be weak and defenseless, which, in essence, you are. Show your husband that you need him, his wise advice and care.

We must always remember that a man and a woman are endowed with different natures, and each of them has its own value. Therefore, anyone who wants to build a happy family must follow his destiny and follow certain rules in relationships. A man wants to feel like a man, to be a leader in the family and to have an obedient, kind and gentle wife. And a woman wants to be close to a strong and reliable man, feeling his care, attention and support.

A happy family is a single whole, where husband and wife do not compete, but complement each other. And if a married woman remembers that she is “behind her husband” and not in front of him, then she will not need to remind anyone who is boss in the house.
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1 meaning of verse 34 of Surah An-Nisa
2 women do not perform Namaz and do not fast during menstruation and postpartum discharge

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Muslim names for boys and girls

The problem of naming is still relevant today. Each of us undoubtedly faced this problem at the time of the birth of a child. We painstakingly go through dozens of names before settling on one of the options. You always want to find something beautiful, not contrary to traditions and religion, but at the same time simple, easy to pronounce. The euphony of a name plays an important role in social society. There are cases when parents, under the influence of personal emotions and ideological ideas, called their children names that did not correspond to the moral and ethical principles in Muslim society. For example, during the all-Union construction of communism in some Turkic peoples, children were given the name “Lenur” - Lenin Nury (Lenin’s Light), “Marlene” - Marx and Lenin and other political names. It is also worth noting the problem of the disappearance from the language of such letters as “ه” - h and “ح” - X. For example, Asan, Usein, Usnie. These are names generally accepted in the Muslim world, like the same root words “ X asana" - » " X usain" - " X Yusniyay”, from Arabic - refined, graceful, good. The reason for the disappearance of the mentioned letters in the language of the Turkic peoples is the replacement of Arabic script with Latin or Cyrillic.

Some Turkic peoples to this day maintain an interesting tradition of calling a weakened newborn the name Tursun or Yashar, Omur. In particular, Azerbaijanis call Dursun or assign the name of the father and mother. No one will deny the fact that the name is a kind of carrier of any information. A Muslim name can carry the memory of the family of Prophets and their loved ones, peace be upon them. To testify to the humility and faith of a Muslim in the existence of One Allah, as well as on the Day of Judgment. This is noticeable in the example of names based on: ‘abd (‘ibad), safe and nur. Variants of the Arabic term “Abd” are interpreted as: slave. Safe is like a sword, and nur is a ray, light. Let us pay attention to the following names: ‘Abdullah, ‘Abdura X man, 'Abdul To adir, ‘Abdussamad, Seyfuddin, Nureddin and others.

It must be said that not only newlyweds, but also their parents and grandparents take part in the process of naming a child. In most cases, young people, as a sign of respect and gratitude, leave the last word to their elders. This is actually the mentality of the Crimean Tatar people.

In the traditions of some Muslim Turks, there is a special approach to names; the wife often addresses her husband without mentioning his name. For example, an Uzbek woman calls her husband “khodzhayyn” (but the etymology of the Russian word “master”), otasi is the father of the children. In Crimean Tatar houses, and especially these are families with a long history, they address each other as: akay, apay or kishi, apakay, avrat, etc. The word "awrat" is applied to women because they have parts of their bodies that they must cover in front of other men. (The whole body except the face and hands).

Returning directly to our topic, it is enough to remember our compatriots who have double names. For example: Kurt-Sabe. Kurt-Ali, Kurt-Asan, Kurt-Osman, Seit-Asan, Seit-Bekir, Seit-Belyal, Seit-Veli, Mambet-Ali. Let's remember the forms of names in pre-war Crimea, these are the names of famous classics of Crimean Tatar literature: Hassan Sabri, Hussein Shamil, Umer Fehmi and others. Sometimes among readers there are those who confuse their second non-official names with surnames. For, as we know, in surnames of Turkic origin there are no endings typical for Slavic peoples such as: ov/ova, ev/eva. Currently, some Crimean Tatar cultural figures, in order to emphasize patriotism, deliberately cut off such endings from personal surnames. For example, Shakir Selim(s), Shevket Ramazan(s), Aider Memet(s), Fetta Akim(s), Aishe Koki(eva), Sheryan Ali(ev). According to some reports, the above-mentioned paired names were assigned to children in order to avoid misunderstandings between fellow villagers with the same names. Perhaps there are other motives here. At the moment, this issue remains poorly studied. Along with names, there are also various pseudonyms and nicknames. If usually creative people or, less often, political figures, along with their real personal name, ascribe to themselves a pseudonym, then nicknames are assigned to a certain person directly by the people around him.

With the intention of recalling ancient traditional Muslim names, we are starting to publish the most frequently used names. The article is based on a reference book of Turkic names, Arabic-Russian, Ottoman-Turkish and other dictionaries.

Male and female names starting with the letters A

‘Abdullah is a servant of God.
‘Abid, (‘Abide) is a worshiping, praying, believing slave.
‘Adalet – justice, fairness.
‘Adil, (‘Adile) – fair. Male and Male and female name female name.
‘Azamat - greatness, splendor.
‘Aziz, (‘Azize) - respected, revered, beloved. Male and female name
‘Azim - determined, resolute
‘Ali is the name of the cousin of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (‘Ali is a female name)
‘Alim (‘Alime) - wise, learned, noble. Male and female name
‘Arif - noble, intelligent
‘Abdulgaffar - Servant of Allah, Forgiver of Sins
Adem - Adam, the name of the first man created by Allah, the first Prophet, peace be upon him
Alemdar - standard bearer
Amin - reliable, truthful male name and female name
Amina is the name of the mother of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
Amir (Emir) - ruling, giving orders
Arzu - 1. Beloved of Kamber - the hero of the popular fairy tale “Arzu ve Kamber”. 2. from person, desire, dream
Asiya (Asie) was the name of the Pharaoh’s wife. A pious woman from the followers of the prophet Musa, peace be upon him
Ahmad is one of the names of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.

Male and female names starting with the letters - B

Basyr - insightful, insightful, far-sighted
Batal - brave, courageous, hero
Batyr - hero
Bakhtiyar - from Pers. Happy

Male and female names starting with the letters B

Vildan (from the Arabic words valil, ordered, evlyad) - newborn children; slaves

Male and female names starting with the letters - G

Gevher (Jauhar) - a precious stone, pure, true, genuine
Gyuzul (Guzal, Gezul) - from Turkic, beautiful, good. Female name

Male and female names starting with the letters D

Dilyaver - from Pers. brave, courageous, courageous
Dilyara - from Persian poet. gorgeous; sweet, beautiful, soothing to the heart

Male and female names starting with the letters Z

Zahid (Zahida) leads an ascetic lifestyle. Male and female name
Zaire (Zaire) - visiting, visiting. Male and female name
Zainab (Zeyneb) - the name of the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him
Zakir (from Dhikr) - mentioning the Name of God Almighty
Zarif (Zarifa) - gentle, sophisticated. Male and female name
Zafer - achieving the goal; victorious, winner
Zahra - flower
Zuhra is one of the names of the daughter of the Prophet, peace be upon him, Fatima.
Zeki (Zekiye) - pure, without impurities, natural, unadulterated. Male and female name
Zeki - smart, clever
Zulfie is the one who has very beautiful, voluminous hair

Male and female names starting with the letters - I

Ibrahim is the name of the Prophet, peace be upon Him, the father of the Prophet Ismail, peace be upon Him.
Idris is the name of one of the Prophets, peace be upon them.
Izzet - greatness, respect.
Ilham (Ilhamie) - inspiration. Men's and women's.
Ilyas is the name of one of the Prophets, peace be upon them.
Imdad - help; force sent to help
Iman is faith. Female name.
‘Inet - mercy, guardianship, care.
Irfan - knowledge. Male name.
‘Isa is the name of one of the Prophets, peace be upon them, son of Maryam, peace be upon her. Allah sent down the Injil to Him.
Islam is the name of the religion of all the Prophets, peace be upon them, from Ar. means submission to the One God
Ismail is the name of one of the Prophets, peace be upon them. The first son of the Prophet Ibrahim, peace be upon him, from the hajer Ismet - purity, security.
Irada (Irade) - will.

Male and female names starting with the letters - K

Kamal (Kemal) - perfection.
Kerem - nobility; generosity.
Kerim (Kerime) - generous, noble. Male and female name.
Kausar (Kevser) - 108th sura from the Koran, the name of the source of paradise.
Kamil (Kamila) - perfect, impeccable. Male and female name.
Kader (Kadire) - powerful, strong. Male and female name

Male and female names starting with the letters L

Latife - tender, soft. Female name.
Lutfi (Lutfiye) - kind, dear. Male and female name.
Lyale is a tulip.

Male and female names starting with the letters M

Mahbub (Mahbube) - beloved, beloved. Male and female name.
Mavlyud (Mavlyuda) - born. Male and female name.
Madina is the city in which the tomb of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, is located.
Maryam (Meryem) - mother of the prophet ‘Isa. peace be upon him
Madiha – praising.
Mecca is the place where the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was born and the location of the Ka'bah.

Male and female names starting with the letters - N

Nadir (Nadir) - rare.
Nazim (Nazmie) - composing.
Nazif (Nazife) – pure.
Nail (Naile) - achieving the goal.
Nafise - very valuable; beautiful.
Nedim (Nedime) - interlocutor, friend.
Nimet - good, gift.
Nureddin is the light of faith.

Male and female names starting with the letters - R

Raghib (Raghibe) - willing.
Rajab (Rejeb) is the seventh month of the lunar calendar.
Raif (Raife) is kind-hearted.
Ramazan (Ramadan) is the month of Fasting.
Rasim is an artist who draws.
Refat - compassionate, kind.

Male and female names starting with the letters - C

Saadet - happiness.
Sabit is hard and stable.
Sabir is patient, trying on.
Sadriddin - with faith in the heart.
Said (Saide) – happy, lucky.
Sakin (Sakine) being at peace.
Salih (Saliha) - pious.
Safvet is clean, clear.
Safiye is pure, without impurities.
Selim (Selime) - without flaws.
Selyamet - well-being, safety.
Sefer - travel.
Subhi (Subhiye) morning.
Suleiman is the name of the Prophet, peace be upon him.
Sultan (Sultaniye) - ruler.

Male and female names starting with the letters T

Tahir (Tahire) pure, noble.
Talib - aspiring; student.
Tevfik – luck, lucky.

Male and female names starting with the letters - U

Ulvi (Ulviye) – elevation.
‘Ubaydullah is the servant of the Almighty.
Ummet is a community.

Male and female names starting with the letters F

Fazil (Fazile) - noble.
Faik (Faik'a) - excellent.
Faruk is fair.
Fatima (Fatma) is the name of the first daughter of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.

Male and female names starting with the letters - X

Khalil is a devotee (friend, comrade).
Halim (Halime) - soft, kind.
Khalis (Khalise) - pure, without impurities.
Khabib (Habibe) - beloved.
Khadijah is the name of the first wife of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
Haydar is a lion, that is, brave and courageous.
Hayreddin - benefit from faith.
Khairy – happy, lucky.
Hakim (Hakime) - wise.
Khalil - loyal, friend, comrade.
Halim (Halime) – soft, kind.
Khalis (Khalise) – pure without impurity.
Hasan – graceful, good. The name of the grandson of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
Hikmet – wisdom.
Husseini is good, graceful. The name of the grandson of the prophet is Muhammad, peace be upon him.
Husniy (Husniye) – graceful, beautiful.

Male and female names starting with the letters - Ш

Sha'ban is the eighth month of the lunar calendar.
Shemseddnn - with bright faith.
Shakir (Shakire) – noble.
Shevket – majestic, important.
Shemseddin - with bright faith.
Shemsi (Shemsie) – sunny, radiant.
The sheriff is honorary.
Shefik (Shefiqa) – kind, sincere.
Shukri (Shukriye) – giving thanks.

Male and female names starting with the letters E

Edib (Edibe) - well-mannered.
Edie (hedie) - a gift.
Ekrem is very generous and welcoming.
Elmaz is a precious stone, diamond.
Emin (Emine) - honest.
Enver is very radiant, bright.
Enis (Enise) is a very good conversationalist.
Esma is very generous and welcoming.
Eyub is the name of the Prophet, peace be upon him.

Male and female names starting with the letters - Y

Yunus is the name of the Prophet, peace be upon him.
Yusuf is the name of the prophet, peace be upon him.

Male and female names starting with the letters - I

Ya'qub is the name of the prophet, peace be upon him.

It is quite difficult to find a person who does not dream of a happy family life next to someone who will love, understand, respect, appreciate, tolerate, care, support, behave with dignity, raise children competently, treat parents well, and so on. But few people think that all these wonderful qualities are branches of a tree whose roots are fear of God.

Nowadays, people often choose a life partner based on external appearance, status and position in society, hoping that other positive qualities will appear over time. They hope that in the future they will be able to instill in their life partner a love of knowledge and observance. Of course, this is not excluded, but our religion strongly recommends choosing a life partner based on fear of God.

A woman should be especially careful when choosing a husband, because it is often beyond her power to correct an adult man. But even a man should not get his hopes up: although it is easier for a husband to influence his wife, not every woman is easy to change.

When people get married, they don’t always think about the fact that they have to go through a long life journey together, raise children, go through trials and difficulties, but only think about whether it’s pleasant to spend time with this person. Therefore, it is not surprising that their hopes for a happy family life are often not justified.

How to avoid disappointment? The answer to this question has long been known - choose someone who fears God. He is the most reliable life partner. The love of such a person will make you happy, but even if there are no such strong feelings, he will still always be fair to you. You don’t expect a trick from such a person, he will lend a shoulder in difficult times, will be kind and patient, will direct you in the right direction and will do the right thing himself - as Sharia orders. A God-fearing person loves for the sake of Allah, and not for the sake of his nafs, like most people: while feelings are seething, they are ready to endure and give in, and when the feelings pass, the relationship between spouses deteriorates.

However, a truly happy married couple is one in which both spouses are God-fearing. Therefore, not only seek a godly life partner, but strive to be one. After all, the ideal married couple are those who lead each other along the path to Paradise.

The fruits of the union of God-fearing spouses are wonderful - not only a good relationship, but also godly offspring. There have been many examples in history when two God-fearing people raised children who illuminated the whole world with their knowledge.

Parents of the Great Imam Abu Hanifa

One day a traveler was walking along the road. He was very hungry. And suddenly he saw an apple floating along the river. He took out this apple and ate it, but then he thought: “What if it came from someone’s garden?” Then he decided to go upstream and see if there was a garden there. After walking a little, he saw an apple tree growing in someone else's garden.

The young man was very God-fearing. He was upset that he ate someone else's apple and decided to ask the owner for forgiveness. He went to him, told him about the apple and asked the owner of the garden: “Will you forgive me?” He answered: “No,” and the young man became even more upset. He imagined punishment in hell for eating what was unlawful, and decided not to leave until he received forgiveness. When the owner left the house, the young man asked again: “Will you forgive me?” The owner of the garden, seeing his fear of God, said: “I will forgive you only if you marry my daughter. But know that she doesn’t see, doesn’t speak, and doesn’t walk.” Hearing this, the traveler was afraid, but the fear of the answer on the Day of Judgment was stronger than the fear of the trials in this life, and he agreed.

They entered the house. The owner led him to his daughter's room. A very beautiful girl came out to meet them and greeted her father and guest. It was the owner's daughter.

The traveler was almost speechless from surprise and surprise. “But you said that your daughter doesn’t see, doesn’t speak, and doesn’t walk!” - he exclaimed. “That’s right,” the father replied, “My daughter does not see what is forbidden, does not say what is forbidden, and does not go where it is forbidden!” (that is, she was also very God-fearing). Allah granted that in this way a God-fearing father would find a God-fearing husband for his God-fearing daughter. This is how the parents of the great Imam Abu Hanifa, one of the most famous theologians in the world, met.

Parents of the pious ‘Abdullah ibn Al-Mubarak

‘Abdullah ibn Al-Mubarak is a great scientist and Sufi. He was sincere and brave. This is the story of how his parents met.

His mother's father had a garden. One day he asked the man who was guarding his garden: “Bring me a sweet pomegranate.” The watchman went for a pomegranate and gave it to the owner. When the owner tried the pomegranate, he said: “What did you bring me?!” He's sour! Bring something sweet." Then the watchman went again and brought him another pomegranate. The owner, having tasted the fruit, was again indignant: “Why did you bring me sour pomegranate again?!” You’ve been working for me for a whole year and you don’t know which ones are sweet?!” To which the watchman replied: “You hired me to guard the garden, and not so that I could taste its fruits. How can I know which one is sweet and which one is sour?!” The owner of the garden was greatly surprised by the honesty and decency of the watchman and invited him to marry his daughter.

Parents of the fifth caliph Umar ibn ‘Abdul-‘Aziz

‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul-‘Aziz is the fifth righteous caliph and grandson of the second righteous caliph ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab. He was a fair ruler, possessed the deepest knowledge and was very ascetic. Perhaps all his achievements were facilitated by his upbringing, since he had godly parents. Here's the story of how they met.

His grandfather, Caliph ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattab, was a great companion of the Prophet and ruler of the Muslims. But despite this, he went out into the city at night to find out how ordinary people lived. And one day, during his next round, he heard a conversation between two women. The milk seller told her daughter: “Dilute the milk with water,” to which she replied: “But the Caliph forbade this!” Her mother told her: “But he doesn’t see us now.” Then the daughter replied: “If Umar does not see, then the Lord of Umar sees everything!”

Returning home, ‘Umar said to his sons: “I know a house in which a God-fearing and decent girl lives - let one of you marry her.” And ‘Asym ibn ‘Umar married her. And when their son was born, they gave him the same name as his grandfather.

How to raise a child to be a PERSONALITY

From birth, the child develops and is imbued with the beliefs and life attitudes that his parents and environment instill in him. In childhood, his character, habits, worldview are formed - all this forms the foundation that underlies his personality. That is why it is so important in childhood to instill in a child the correct beliefs and principles that will help him become successful and happy.

The first thing parents must take care of is to give the child true beliefs about the Creator and the world that He created, about good and evil, about the commands and prohibitions of Allah, about Heaven and hell, about reward and punishment. This is the most valuable and important knowledge, without which true happiness is impossible. In addition, parents are obliged to teach their child to perform Namaz, observe Fasting and other duties, because they do not want him to commit sins in the future. This is the foundation without which success is impossible.

In addition, it is important to develop in a child those qualities and skills that will help him live this life in the best way and achieve a high degree of piety for eternal happiness in the Next World.

PURPOSE

It is important for a child to learn to set goals and achieve them.

Nowadays, children often do not understand the meaning of life, do not find their place in this world, many of them prefer to live in “virtual reality”. And as a result, their real life is wasted.

Explain to your child that life was not given in vain, and there is responsibility for how he lives it. And also explain that life in this world is temporary, and after it there will be eternal life: in Heaven or in hell. In Heaven there will be eternal happiness, and in Hell there will be eternal suffering. Therefore, the main goal is to live life in such a way as to get to Heaven!

How to achieve this, we were told by the Prophets - special people sent by God. The most important thing is faith in God, who created this entire world, but Himself is not like His creations. And whoever lives as God commanded will achieve success.

On the way to your main goal, it is important to learn how to set small goals that will help you achieve it. For each goal, you need to define objectives and develop a plan to achieve it. Therefore, your task as parents is to teach your child these skills. A person who possesses these skills lives meaningfully and does not go with the flow of life. It is such a person who is a person.

Prepare your child for the fact that there are always obstacles on the path to success, otherwise everyone would be successful. Difficulties await him, but don’t let that stop him - he must learn to overcome them and benefit from the experience he receives. Develop in him those qualities that will help him achieve his goal: perseverance, hard work, willpower and responsibility.

RESPONSIBILITY

One day a child said to his father: “Our new math teacher doesn’t know how to explain, I won’t learn anything with him.” The father replied: “Understand, son, if you want to know mathematics, then this is your task, not your teacher. What have you done yourself to resolve this issue?” That is, the father did not allow his son to shift responsibility to others. He wanted to show him that there are two types of people: those who take responsibility for their lives and achieve success, and those who simply look for someone to blame for their failures.

The ability to accept responsibility opens up a broad perspective for a person. Without the willingness to take responsibility, it is impossible to achieve true success! Can anyone achieve success who hides from problems, avoids difficulties, is unable to make decisions and shifts everything to others?!

Often, parents themselves are to blame for the fact that their children grow up exactly like this: infantile, lazy and irresponsible. After all, they decide everything for the child, do not allow him to take the initiative, literally take the work out of the child’s hands, believing that he cannot cope on his own.

Help your child not be afraid to take responsibility for their actions. Even if he doesn't do something perfectly at first, don't stop him. Teach him to take on responsibilities and fulfill them, as well as be responsible for possible failures. Start small - let him take responsibility, for example, for the order in his room, saying to himself: “I am responsible for the cleanliness of this room” and keeps his promise.

It is natural for parents to want to help their children. But true help lies not in solving all their problems for them, but in teaching them how to solve their problems.

One person, walking through the park, noticed a cocoon on a bush from which a butterfly was trying to get out. There was a narrow gap in the cocoon, and the butterfly made every effort to crawl out through it. The man stopped and began to watch the butterfly, which could not get out. He felt sorry for the butterfly - he took out a knife and cut the cocoon to help her. The butterfly immediately crawled out, however, its body was frail and weak, and its wings could barely move. The man continued to watch the butterfly, thinking that its wings would get stronger and it would fly, but this did not happen. After all, it is precisely the efforts of the butterfly that are needed to get out of the cocoon that strengthen its wings and give it the ability to fly!

Don’t try to make your child’s life easier by solving all the issues for him. The sooner he learns to take responsibility for himself and his actions, the better for him! After all, in the end, a great Report awaits everyone! What will be the position of someone who has avoided responsibility all his life?!

If you teach your child to set goals, take responsibility, overcome obstacles, show diligence, persevere, work on himself and achieve results, he will become strong, will not be afraid of life's difficulties and will be able to achieve real success.

Valeria Protasova

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Nowadays, the concept of “head of the family” is gradually lost in the series of changes in modern life. And the term “family” itself now has its own meaning for everyone. But the head of the family determines the family order, without which calm and stable coexistence is impossible.

Who should become the head of the family – the husband or wife? What do psychologists think about this?

• A family is two (or more) people connected by common goals. And a necessary condition for achieving these goals is a clear division of responsibilities and roles (as in the old joke, where the husband is the president, the wife is the minister of finance, and the children are the people). And for order in the “country” you need comply with laws and subordination, as well as . In the absence of a leader in the “country,” riots and pulling the blanket over each other begin, and if the Minister of Finance takes the helm instead of the president, then the laws that have been in force for a long time are replaced by ill-conceived reforms that will one day lead to the collapse of the “country.”
  That is, the president must remain president, the minister - minister.
• Emergency situations are always resolved by the head of the family (if you don’t take into account the peeling paint on the windowsill and even the broken faucet). And it is simply impossible to solve some difficult issues without a leader. A woman, as a weaker being in fact, cannot solve all issues on her own. If she also takes on this area of ​​family life, then the role of men in the family is automatically downgraded , which does not benefit his pride and the family atmosphere.
• Submission of a wife to her husband is the law , on which the family has been based since ancient times. A husband cannot feel like a full-fledged man if his wife puts herself as the head of the family. Usually, the marriage of a “spineless man” and a strong female leader is doomed. And the man himself intuitively (as intended by nature) is looking for a wife who is ready to accept the traditional position “the husband is the head of the family.”
• The leader of the family is the captain , who leads the family frigate on the desired course, knows how to avoid reefs, and takes care of the safety of the entire crew. And even if the frigate, under the influence of certain factors, suddenly goes off course, it is the captain who leads it to the desired pier. A woman (again, by nature) is not given such qualities as ensuring safety, the ability to make the right decisions in emergency situations, etc. Her task is to maintain peace and comfort in the family and raise children. and creating an environment for your spouse that will help him become an ideal captain. Of course, modern life and certain circumstances force women to become captains themselves, but such a position does not bring happiness to the family. There are two options for the development of such a relationship: the steering wife is forced to put up with her husband’s weakness and drag him on herself, which is why she gets tired over time and begins to look for a man with whom she can be weak. Or the steering wife carries out a “raider takeover”, as a result of which the husband gradually loses his leadership position and leaves the family, in which his manhood is belittled.
• Fifty/fifty relationships where responsibilities are shared equally along with leadership - one of the fashion trends of our time. Equality, a certain freedom and other modern “postulates” introduce adjustments into the cells of society, which also do not end with a “happy ending”. Because in fact there cannot be equality in the family - there will always be a leader . And the illusion of equality sooner or later leads to a serious eruption of the family Fuji, which will result in a return to the traditional “husband is the head of the family” scheme, or in a final break. A ship cannot be run by two captains, nor a company by two directors. One person bears responsibility, while the second supports the leader’s decisions, is nearby as a right hand and is a reliable rear. Two captains cannot steer in the same direction - such a ship is doomed to become the Titanic.
• Woman as a wise creature , is capable of creating a microclimate in the family that will help Unleash a man's inner potential. The main thing is to become exactly the “co-pilot” who supports you in emergency situations, and does not snatch the steering wheel shouting “I’ll lead, you’re steering in the wrong direction again!” A man needs to be trusted, even if his decisions, at first glance, seem wrong. Stopping a galloping horse or flying into a burning hut is very modern. A woman wants to be irreplaceable, strong, able to solve any problem. . But then there is no point in complaining and suffering - “he wipes his pants on the couch while I work three jobs” or “How I want to be weak and not have to bear everything on myself!”?

The head of the family (from time immemorial) is a man. But the wife’s wisdom lies in her ability to influence his decisions according to the scheme “he is the head, she is the neck.” A smart wife, even if she knows how to use a drill and earns three times more than her husband, will never show it. Because a man is ready to protect, protect and pick up a weak woman , if it “falls”. And next to a strong woman, it’s very difficult to feel like a real man - she provides for herself, you don’t need to feel sorry for her, she changes a flat tire herself and doesn’t cook dinner because she has no time. A man has no opportunity to show his masculinity. And to become the head of such a family means to admit oneself to be spineless.

Valeria Protasova

Psychologist with more than three years of practical experience in social psychology and pedagogy. Psychology is my life, my work, my hobby and way of life. I write what I know about. I believe that human relationships are important in all areas of our lives.

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Let's talk about family, priorities and barbarians. I will tell you about my view on raising boys. And I’m sure only a few will agree, but I hope that someone will think about it.

Correctly set priorities are societies and states. If the values ​​are adequate, then success is predictable. But a misalignment can ruin everything. And you should start looking for problems with your family. So let's think about it - what are your priorities?

Majority opinion

Today, the center of the universe of most mothers is their children. How often when communicating with young mothers, I detect in their words concern, concern for the kids, but at the same time almost complete indifference to the man. Think about it, who is more important to you – your child or your husband? I don’t force you to choose, you don’t need to give up on anyone, just analyze - who occupies your thoughts more often?

And now the next experiment, after you have answered the first question, who is more important - you or the person you chose in the last paragraph?

Everyone will have their own result. But most often I observe the following picture: the most important person is the child, the second most important person is the woman herself, and in last place is the man. Surprisingly, the child often comes first alone, even if there are several of them in the family. But with many children, the man is still lower than the rest.

Is this right or wrong? How should things really be? Let's figure it out.

Historical features

Humanity has lived in peace for several million years. During this period, natural instincts and rules were formed that helped to survive. The family was formed a long time ago, and its components were a man, a woman and children. But family well-being in the era of ancient people directly depended on the protector. The man protected his cell from animals, other men, and natural disasters. He, of course, also brought food, but the woman and children could collect something themselves to survive. But they could not fully defend themselves.

What kind of families were there? The main thing remained the man himself. The woman understood that if she died, then who would take care of her children? And every person instinctively values ​​himself above others. The second place in the family hierarchy was occupied by the man. He must be healthy, strong, well-fed. Without him, the existence of the family was jeopardized, the likelihood of survival was very low. Well, then there were children in the chain. High mortality, frequent childbirth and many other factors reduced the value of babies. This does not mean that they were loved less. But there was logic - if a child dies, you can give birth to another one. If a man dies, it is unlikely that all the other children and the woman with them will survive.

The example is rough, but illustrative. In addition to care, the man was also entitled to respect, sometimes in excessive forms. The man was the head of the family, clan, society. But all this is in reality, when protection was necessary. In the event of serious threats, the woman obeyed, understanding that her life depended on the strength of the companion and, in general, his presence. But times have changed...

When everything is there

An example of a changing situation is the Roman Empire before its fall. The huge empire extended over a large territory. And as a result, there was no one to defend against. Society demanded “bread and circuses.” But at the same time, there was plenty of everything: there were no hungry people in the holy city, and external enemies were too far away.

During this period, it was not the political system that changed, but the education of the younger generation. If before this mothers valued their husbands more, then when protection became less important, they began to love their children more. What has changed? There was a much greater fear of losing them than the man. Respect for the stronger sex has decreased.

Children raised with excessive care were no longer so independent, not so strong. Their dependence on their mother increased. And the ladies tried in every possible way to protect them from pain, suffering, and trials. Defenders were no longer needed, their value was falling, but managers, scientists, and advisers were held in high esteem.

What happened next? Two or three generations without respect for protection led to the fact that each subsequent woman valued her children above a man and considered this the norm. With each generation, men became weaker. And then the barbarians came and in a very short time swept the empire off the face of the earth. It just turned out that there was no one to protect her. Weak men could not defend their country.

Terrible conclusions

Many may not agree with me, but I am sure that in a family a man should be more important than children. Respect for him, his interests, his needs should be higher than the desires of the children. there must be much more than those born from him. The correct hierarchy will allow us to educate the new generation in a new way.

Well, how can a worthy younger man grow up in a family where a man is not respected? Condemning the father or contempt for him will not help create an ideal son using a bad example.

What kind of children grow up in families where priorities are wrong? Pleasers... The son tries to behave differently, not like the “bad” father. And this is no longer a sign of strength. – this is the one who has his own position and defends it. If he adapts, tries to always be good, fearing the “dislike” of his mother, will he be able to become worthy?

Surprisingly, today's women are 100% sure that the child is more important than everyone else, and sometimes even themselves. This is not the first generation that thinks this way, they were also raised this way. And they continue the tradition, creating men who know nothing about protection and strength.

And it even begins to seem to me that history will soon repeat itself. Let's look at Europe. Are the men of these prosperous countries ready to repel the new barbarians? It seems to me that they don’t know about protection, but let’s hope I’m wrong.

In the article, I will tell you who is in charge in the family and just relationships - a man or a woman.

I believe that the main (leader, presenter) in the family and relationships is the man.

• Would most women agree that the man is in charge? … hardly…
• Will a man agree that it’s not him, but the woman who’s in charge?)) ... of course not...

How are things going for low-ranking couples?

Very often the main (leading) person in a family or just a relationship is a woman.

• Man, if this is the case for you, I hasten to disappoint you. You are a woman with balls between her legs, who is satisfied with everything, who does not know how / does not want to take responsibility (this is a man’s main quality). You're worthless. You should be in charge. This is your natural role. It's yours by right. This position indicates that you are a low-ranking male. Therefore, you need to develop and pump up the man in you.
• Woman, if this is the case for you, I hasten to upset you too. You're not a man. You are a woman. This is not your natural role. You are not suited for this as a man. Your role is different. You must understand that you chose the wrong male. With a real high-ranking man (male) - you would feel like a woman, weak, protected, a little girl :) I know, you just dream about it... You wouldn’t have to pretend to be this damn iron lady, play the role (function) of a man and forever decisions….

Very often in families and simple relationships the so-called reigns. equality.

Those. decisions are made by both men and women. In the vast majority of cases, this indicates that the man is of low rank. This won’t work with a high-ranking man.

But, there is a very important nuance here: a high-ranking man can take into account and reckon with the opinions/interests of his woman, but this should in no way be confused with equality.

A high-ranking man = much stronger internally than any high-ranking woman. Whatever a woman is, with a HIGH-RANKING MAN = she will always be weaker.

Because the internal state of a man (high-ranking) is much stronger than absolutely any woman (even high-ranking) and women combined.

Next to a high-ranking male = always a high-ranking woman. IT CAN’T BE ANY OTHER WAY! NO WAY! A high-ranking male will never live, date, sleep, fuck - a low-ranking one. And vice versa, a high-ranking woman will never even pay attention to a low-ranking male.

A high-ranking woman (like any woman in general) needs a male who will be stronger than her inner self. A woman needs a man. Support. Strong men's impenetrable shoulder. Stone wall. The kind of male with whom she will feel like a little girl 🙂 weak, submissive, protected, like a god in her bosom, where she won’t have to decide anything and pretend to be an iron lady.

With such a male nearby, the woman, as if by clicking, automatically becomes number 2, because she feels his power. Feels this power. Energy. This confidence. Everything happens at the level of feelings. Whoever is stronger inside = he is the main one (leading). There are no disputes, fights, clarifications, etc. bullshit.

Everything happens at the level of feelings. And if a man is real, a real high-ranking man, a woman will immediately feel it and will not be able to compare with him in this regard. She is no match for such a man. And the man, in turn, will feel it, and that’s how everything is determined.

Therefore, a woman cannot be number 1 and cannot be the so-called. equality with a high-ranking male. But the point is that a woman does not need to be equal to such a man in this regard.

A woman is programmed by nature to do something else (she should not be a man, stronger than a man, perform the role of a man, his functions, etc., women do not have all this, therefore, next to a high-ranking man, a high-ranking woman will always be weaker).

Therefore, the woman is No. 2. A man can take into account and reckon with the opinions/interests of his woman. Undoubtedly. But in the end, he still decides for himself. It will or it won't. Yes or no. This or that. Etc. This should not be confused with equality. Such a man is the head, the leader, he is stronger, he is No. 1. I repeat, this is felt (by both men and women) and it cannot be confused with anything.

In general, all these No. 1 and No. 2 = bullshit. This is just so you understand what I want to tell you. Such a concept as I am No. 1 - and you are No. 2. No. A high-ranking man and woman in an alliance (tandem) both feel very, very good and comfortable. Nobody complains about anything. No one is humiliated by anything. And so on.

It may seem like this here in the article, but #2 = means bad. And #1 = awesome. No. There is no such. A man needs a woman, and a woman needs a man. That's all. It’s just that these concepts include a lot of things :)

TO THE MAN...

A woman needs a man. Dot.

Hey, you don't need a guy, a boy, a teenager, a girlfriend, a man, a woman with balls between her legs, a friend, etc. and so on. - hey, I need a man. But look at the matter here: if you think that you were born with a penis between your legs and you are already a man, I hasten to disappoint you, you are mistaken. This is not so. One is not born a man, one becomes one.

The man in you needs to be pumped up. Constantly pump. As a hero in the game to the highest level. Understand? It’s like playing a game on a computer, only in reality, and your hero is you. You have to pump yourself up. Level by level. Constantly work on yourself. Develop the necessary qualities in yourself. Develop. Studies. Acquire knowledge and implement it in yourself and your life.

• ...I'm planning many more episodes like this, so keep an eye on my blog.

Yes, it is a long and difficult path. Nothing worthwhile comes quickly or easily. But here everything depends on you, on your desire, perseverance, assertiveness, etc.

If you have a real wild (burning) DESIRE = you will pump yourself up to the highest level, the level of a man, and everything will just be f*cked up, no, then don’t expect anything good, because you have decided to do nothing ( do nothing, don’t change) and everything that happens in the future will be your fault, because you yourself decided not to change anything and remain a woman with balls between your legs.

And about a woman with balls between her legs - women wipe their feet. Women don't respect people like that. They don’t appreciate it and treat it accordingly. When you develop the man in you, any woman will be at your feet. You will be appreciated. You will be respected. They will be afraid of losing you. They will run after you. It will be impossible for you to be pushed around and manipulated. And much more. This is a LEVEL!

Level of a high-ranking male. A male to all males. The vast majority of men are low-ranking. They are manipulated, pushed around, disrespected, treated like whores, etc. and so on. , believe me, I know what I’m talking about, because I was like that myself.

HIGH-RANKING MALE = NOT BORN! THEY BECOME THEM!

Advice: make the right decision right now - start pumping up the man in you.

WOMAN...

Woman - you are number 2. in an alliance (tandem). Not #1. No. 1 is yours - man. You are number 2.

When you marry a man, your status becomes “MARRIED”, think about it: MARRIED. BEHIND him, FOR him, do you understand? you automatically become number 2, where number 1 is a man. The man is the main one in the union (tandem), he decides everything and the responsibility in everything lies only with him.

P.s. clarification for everyone, I’m talking about a man now, and not some kind of snot, a boy, a boy, a man, etc. With these creatures born with a penis between their legs, you are unlikely to feel like number 2. Even after marrying him get married, because these are not men, they are not born, it is difficult to find a real man. Because this is a skill... you have to work hard and work hard. a high-ranking woman only needs a high-ranking woman. But that’s not the point now.

You will feel such a man. His strength. Confidence. Power. Energy. And you will be very comfortable being figuratively speaking No. 2. behind him, behind his strong masculine shoulder, believe me, you will enjoy everything. Because I finally found such a man, because such people are in great short supply. There are very few of them.

CONCLUSION: this is a real man - No. 1. You are a woman - and you are No. 2. Dot. But, such a thing as I am No. 1 - and you are No. 2. No. A high-ranking man and woman in an alliance (tandem) both feel very good and comfortable. I give these numbers so that you understand. Got the point. It cannot be any other way with a real man. No, of course you can be No. 1 with a man, but it will be a low-ranking man, because this won’t work with a high-ranking man. No. 1 with him. you never will.

Best regards, administrator.