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29.11.2010
Tricks: How to please a man at first sight?

Contrary to existing stereotypes, men very rarely fall in love at first sight. Perhaps only an immature young man can fall in love at first sight. Older men are used to controlling emotions and do not give free rein to their feelings so quickly. However, an experienced man won’t need too much time to determine whether a stranger is his type. One single meeting lasting from an hour to three is enough. It is during this first meeting that everything is usually decided - whether the man wants to be with you or not. It is almost impossible to change a man’s opinion about himself later. This will require a lot of strength, energy, and patience. And even in this case, the matter is unlikely to be crowned with success. Therefore, the easiest way is not to complicate your life, but to do everything to please a man at first sight, or rather, from the first meeting.

The first fifteen minutes of the meeting are very important when meeting. But this does not mean that you need to jump out of your skin to please a man. On the contrary, the less a man notices overt interest on your part in himself, the better. In order for the first fifteen minutes of the meeting to pass in your favor, you do not need to set yourself unrealistic goals - to make a man fall in love with you at first sight, to amaze him to the very heart with your irresistible beauty, and so on. The main task in the first fifteen minutes of the meeting: you need the man to think: “What a nice girl.” That's all. This is quite enough. Do not arouse negative thoughts and emotions in a man. That's all you need to do in those first fifteen minutes.

For this you must:

1. Have a well-groomed appearance. Note, not super fashionable or overtly sexy, but well-groomed. Neat clothes, clean, styled hair, manicure, white well-groomed teeth, skin that has a radiant, healthy appearance. Some people advise following a natural style and not overdoing it on makeup on the first date. Like, men don't like it. This is all nonsense. A woman should wear cosmetics. She just has to do it so skillfully that a man, looking at her face, doesn’t think how many kilograms of foundation she’s wearing right now or how many kilograms of lipstick he’ll have to taste if he decides to kiss her on the lips now.

2. Behave modestly. Yes exactly. And there is no need to indignantly prove that this is not the eighteenth century, and modesty is not in fashion today. Very much in fashion. Behaving modestly does not mean standing with downcast eyes, blushing and babbling something incomprehensible. A woman behaves modestly, who does not try to be conspicuous with her entire appearance, knows how to listen carefully, without interrupting, and express her opinion without entering into arguments and aggressive discussions.

3. Do not follow some stereotypical advice from women's magazines, which turn out to be not only useless, but also harmful. You've probably heard a million times that men need to smile more often and laugh as much as possible at their jokes. Get it out of your head. You need to radiate goodwill. This is true. But there is absolutely no point in smiling all the time. A girl who is constantly smiling gives the impression of being a simpleton, and this is unacceptable. Smile only when you really want to, and it is desirable that the smile be sly, gentle and mysterious at the same time. It's difficult. You'll have to practice in front of the mirror, but the results are worth it.

If you managed to impress a man in the first fifteen minutes of the meeting, and you will definitely notice and feel this, then consider him in your pocket. Now your task is not to talk too much for the remaining time of the meeting, especially about yourself. Firstly, men themselves are very fond of talking, and secondly, in the first meeting he should learn much less about you than he would like.

Now be careful, this advice is very important. Leave the first meeting when it reaches its climax, that is, when the man’s interest in you has become completely obvious. Leave at any cost, under any pretext, giving the man a sly smile and a promising look in parting. Believe me, he will call you the very next day to set up a new date, and maybe even that very evening.

Experienced young ladies may object to me that it is possible to meet a man, but познакомиться– this is already a serious task. In fact, contrary to the popular belief that you can only find the way to a man’s heart through his stomach, I dare to say that

You can make a man like you with your eyes!

It is through our eyes that the interlocutor “reads” information and receives signals of readiness to communicate. I offer a simple technique that you can use to help a man approach you by giving signal O yours desire communicate.

In order not to force yourself on your nature, treat the whole procedure as a comic experiment that is done for fun. Nevertheless results will completely serious - you will really learn how to attract a man’s attention!

So, at the first opportunity:

1. Go outside and walk calmly until you meet man.
2. Look him in eyes.
3. As soon as you catch a return glance, hold it contact for exactly 3 seconds.
4. Then take away look to the side.

By doing this exercise for at least 2 weeks every day, you will certainly see that it really works and attracts attention men who simply cannot help but notice such a look and automatically pay attention to you.

You will notice how different your sensations will be compared to your first attempts.

You will definitely gain confidence in your abilities and experience,

by analyzing which you can draw your own conclusions. If at first the situation seems absurd and funny, it doesn’t matter! Such feelings haunt most people. Not stop, the second time everything will be much easier.

The more this exercise is done, the more It will be easier each time. And most importantly, there will definitely come a moment when this happens at the level of automaticity. Thus, the chances of attracting the attention of the man you want increase significantly.

It has been proven that in most cases it is woman chooses husband and gives him a signal, and only then he shows activity and gets acquainted first.

Eyes are the mirror of the soul.

The people have honed their wisdom over the centuries, and we should listen to it. The art of looking straight into the soul has been mastered by Muslim women who, due to religious restrictions, are forced to cover their faces and cannot use facial expressions when expressing feelings. Many of them learned talk eyes».

Do you remember the geishas and courtesans of the Renaissance, who could seduce a man with one look? Europeans should learn this language, because in certain situations it can work real miracles.

The main thing is to start taking action, and not just sit and think,

how to please a man!

The excitement that awakens in a woman who takes responsibility for everything that happens to her in life, everyone around her will notice it exclusively on herself. And, what is most surprising, all events begin to line up automatically, as if they were just waiting for this small effort to “change everything myself.”

Try it! Such sensations will make you live much more consciously.

Continue reading the article: How to please guys (10 cm of sexuality)

Good luck, Alla Jansons!

What woman doesn't dream of love? About that great feeling that can create and destroy at the same time, about the feeling that can lift you to the pinnacle of madness and throw you into the abyss of despair? Perhaps we are ready to wait for this all our lives...

“Love will unexpectedly appear when you least expect it”... This, of course, is encouraging. But who knows how much earlier she could have “arrived” if we had been prepared for her visit? And they waited for her, as they say, fully armed?

Some people believe in love at first sight, others don't. Probably everyone, when claiming this or that, is primarily based on their own experience.

I personally cannot call love the first sympathy that a person evokes in me at first sight, but I do not rule out that this sympathy in the future may develop into a deeper and stronger feeling.

Of course, it is not in our power to make a man fall in love, even if you consider yourself “the very best.” But it is entirely within our power to arouse initial interest.

So, what should you do to please a man at first sight?

Look good. And, always. And the less you want it, the better you should look. No man will pay attention to something faceless and gray. Alas, he, as a not very sophisticated reader, first sees only the bright cover of the magazine and the intriguing title, and then looks at what is written in it. And here you should take into account a lot: how you are dressed, how well your hairstyle is chosen, the condition of your manicure, etc. So, if you have decided to wait for a deep, strong feeling, please meet it in full dress!
Smile! A smile when meeting a man has a double meaning. Firstly, it shows that you are glad to see him. This is already conducive. And secondly, as well as, to put it mildly, they don’t like problems. Therefore, the prospect of shouldering all the difficulties written on your face is unlikely to make him want to meet you again. So, when meeting men, pretend that everything is OK with you!
If you have the opportunity to communicate with him, then this also has its own nuances. Don't talk too much. You may bore him too much with unnecessary details of your personal life when you first meet. Let there always be something that he doesn’t know about you yet. If you tell him all the details right away, he will have no reason to meet with you a second time. But you shouldn’t remain silent like a partisan during an interrogation, limiting yourself to a dry “yes, no, I don’t know.” Otherwise, he may think that your life and you yourself are so uninteresting that you have nothing to even tell him. Or he will decide that you don’t consider it necessary to talk to him at all. It's best to just try to keep the dialogue going. You should become a pleasant and interesting conversationalist for him.
Compliment him. Men are no less susceptible to this than women, and maybe even more. Only the compliment should be very subtle. Unlike a woman, a man perceives a compliment as a fact. And if this fact is not obvious to him, he may doubt your sincerity. Therefore, if you have known him for only five minutes, you should not talk about what a wonderful friend he is, it is better to note how well his suit fits on him (what a pleasant conversationalist he is, how great he dances, etc.).
It’s no secret that many men believe that a woman is just waiting to drag him to the registry office. Just like, for example, many women think that a man only dreams of getting her into bed. Do not be afraid, dear men, and do not be deceived, dear ladies! In my opinion, both opinions are very erroneous and contribute to the most incredible myths about women and men.

But nevertheless, at the first meeting, it is better not to discount the generally accepted male opinion and try to reassure the man about your “insidious plans.” Try to make it clear to the man that you are not looking for a husband, but on the contrary, you yourself are so self-sufficient and your life is so interesting that marriage is not in the first place for you. Although, of course, it is not excluded (just don’t even think about talking to him about your feminist views, this will completely exclude his interest in you as a woman). In general, it is better if the initiative to develop your relationship comes from a man. It’s much more pleasant for him to think that HE conquered you. Well, let him think so. In any case, in the future, if you develop a serious relationship with him, he will not be able to blame you for marrying him.

Many girls wonder: “I’m beautiful, I dress fashionably, I wear a short skirt and a deep neckline. But why don’t men get to know me? Why don’t I attract them?”

Now I will tell you 3 tricks, using which you will attract and interest a man at first sight.

At first, a man is not attracted to the butt, not the legs, not the chest. Although this is very important.

The image strikes first.

The image is the line that runs along the edge of your figure, its outline.

And this image is specific. Not a melon, not an inverted pyramid. This is the image that men paint when they say: “What a great girl you passed!”

Chip #1. Hourglass image.

Good clothes for girls are clothes that emphasize the hourglass line and silhouette.

I understand that all girls are different. There is a pear woman, an apple woman, a watermelon woman (and she needs to go to the gym), there is a carrot woman, and so on. There are many different body types, but the universal, most powerful type for a man is the hourglass. It happened that way.

Chest, waist, wide hips. It's catchy, it's interesting, it's sexy. This silhouette is attractive.

Therefore, when you try on clothes in a store, first of all, look at how consistent the hourglass look is. It is important.

Pants don't fit into this look. There is a very subtle point here: the more feminine a girl looks, the more masculine a man she attracts.

This is the rule of nature. Accordingly, a woman should be as different in appearance as possible from men. Even if you walk with your back, or men are looking at you from the side. There is fog, rain, snow or hail outside.

In any situation, you should be seen as a woman at first sight. A man does not have to think for a second to determine your gender.

Most girls in central cities dress like men: trousers, jeans, a jacket, hair pulled back into a ponytail.

Such a girl is walking, and it is not clear whether she is a guy or a girl, a woman or a man. Adult women aged forty also love to dress this way, explaining: “I feel so comfortable.”

It shouldn't be this way.

If you want to attract an interesting, cool man, you must be as different from the man as possible.

Wear clothes that a man cannot wear. This is a dress, blouse, skirt that no man will wear. High-heeled shoes: sandals, shoes or boots in winter. Hit the target straight away.

Rule #2. Color of clothes that will attract his attention

As a child, they bought us gray, brown, green things, black boots and sweaters, because it was practical. They can be washed less often. On the one hand, this is logical, but on the other, it kills attractiveness. Therefore, I recommend dressing in bright, rich colors.

Rich blue, green.

Gray, worn, shabby color of clothes is not attractive.

A brutal man against the backdrop of cowboy scenes - it can still be sexy, but only for a man. When his jeans are worn out, and he is slightly dirty, tired, careless, with stubble.

But a woman should bloom, smell fragrant and attract. It should be a bright flower. The brighter the better. Therefore, the fabric for your clothes should be rich colors.

By the way, there is such a trick: usually more expensive fabrics have richer tones. And pale, faded fabrics are usually cheaper raw materials.

Therefore, choose bright, rich colors of blouses, sweaters, dresses. This will also show that the clothes are expensive.

The richness of the flowers is very important.

Rule #3. Sexy clothing will interest a man

Many women dress attractively, but when you look at them, you realize that something is missing.

The male gaze is quite primitive.

After a man has assessed the silhouette, he needs to catch his eye on some part of your body.

I recommend remembering which part of your body is the sexiest in the eyes of fans, suitors, and men. We are not interested in our friend's opinion. We need to remember what it was men who said. Maybe in frank conversations, maybe after sex. This will be a more objective reality.

You need to choose one of the most attractive parts of the body and highlight it.

You can emphasize in different ways. You can highlight a part of the body with some trinket, butterfly, pattern, or dresses, sweaters with interesting details in pleasant places.

Can be tightened. If it's legs, shoulders, arms, back, you can bare it.

Any clothing, including outerwear, should be in rich colors, highlight or create the image of an hourglass and highlight beautiful legs.

This is what will definitely attract men's eyes and catch them.

A very interesting and practical thing is a belt. The belt allows you to tighten your waist and create that same hourglass silhouette.

If you have beautiful breasts, allow yourself clothes with an open neckline.

This is relevant for adult girls, because for some reason they believe that life is over. They believe that if they are 45, 50, then they are grandmothers. And they start wearing grandma’s clothes, some monstrous gray shawls, clothes made of black and gray fabrics. Terrible.

Real ladies at 45-50 look very juicy and bright. Remember Jennifer Lopez. She is 45 years old. Monica Bellucci is over 50. And they look gorgeous. Their outfits are bright and attractive. Jolie is 43 years old and looks great.

If you are guided by these three rules when choosing clothes, men will not be able to pass by without noticing you.

How to please people at first sight, make a good impression, show your best side in a new team, appear in all the splendor of your charm on a date? Most often, the first impression of you is your doing. Literally

1. Get rid of everything that makes you uncomfortable

Complete self-confidence is the fuel for your charm, charisma, leadership qualities, talent to attract attention and fall in love. But lack of confidence is not a death sentence. Figure out what exactly is stopping you? As a rule, the most destructive things for self-confidence are skin problems, poor hair, teeth and nails, and worries about your own clothes. Well, take this seriously. Look at the condition of your skin as a problem that needs to be solved immediately and effectively: if you decide to solve it at the level of global lifestyle changes, you will most likely achieve nothing. Start small and easy to implement. Contact a dermatologist, describe the problem in detail and strictly follow the recommendations. As for clothes, first start by choosing a universal basic wardrobe that will help out in any situation.

2. Find the best posture for you

The key to a person's first impression is their posture and smile. The hunched and sad type gives the impression not of a lyrical hero, but of a loser tired of life. But staying upright is very difficult. How to find the optimal straight posture for you, which requires a minimum of effort? Stand straight with your feet hip-width apart and straighten your spine, trying to be as tall as possible. After this, relax: maintaining your posture, relax your neck and shoulders, find a comfortable position for your arms, do not stick out your chest. Standing straight does not mean that your body should be wooden: on the contrary, you should feel toned, but flexible and free to move as much as possible. Only one muscle group should be slightly tense at all times: the abs.

3. Avoid “closed” poses

People like those who like themselves. Therefore, it is never superfluous to show friendliness, including expressing it in body language - the most understandable of all languages. First of all, for this you need to open up to your counterpart, demonstrate that you are not putting any barriers between him and yourself and are not pushing him away. Don't assume the Napoleon pose with your arms crossed and your knee pointed forward. Don't fold your arms over your stomach or grab your shoulders. Sometimes, when refusing a closed pose, a person experiences such discomfort that he involuntarily makes ridiculous gestures: for some reason, the hand may reach towards the face (thereby involuntarily “closing” the pose), and the person begins to nervously rub his chin. Learn to control this discomfort. The same goes for crossing your legs while sitting: it’s very difficult to give up this position, but it’s still worth it.

4. Don't look away

Looking into the eyes is also a sign of openness. Don't break eye contact suddenly. Of course, this does not mean at all that you should stare maniacally at your counterpart without blinking or taking your eyes off. But in a conversation, many small events constantly occur when people quite naturally look away from each other: a change in posture, movement, extraneous noise, a pause, a change of topic. If you suddenly break eye contact for no reason, you will either “look away” (which suggests an unspoken thought or secret agenda) or “look down” (which creates a feeling of regret or guilt).

5. Replace a neutral expression with a happy one.

People often complain: “They always tell me that I’m gloomy, but in fact I’m always smiling!” The reason is the insidiousness of your “default” facial expression, that is, the neutral look that your face takes when it is not expressing anything specific. It seems to you that in this situation of zero facial expressions you look quite friendly, open and nice - simply because you are in a good mood. In fact, the “default face” looks quite dark: the corners of the mouth are lowered, the nasolabial folds are emphasized, and some people involuntarily wrinkle their foreheads or frown their eyebrows without noticing it. What to do about it? Start to notice. Think often about what kind of facial expression you have right now. And train yourself to smile and not frown!

6. Smile correctly

Oddly enough, everything is not so simple here either. It’s difficult to just start beaming with a smile if you haven’t yet developed such a habit. Do not forget that a forced smile turns into a grin, which indicates aggression rather than friendliness. This also affects your mood: you are unlikely to be able to sincerely rejoice at the person for whose sake you had to force yourself to smile. How to be? There is no need to stretch your lips into a smile. A real smile comes when you want to smile with all your heart. Think about something pleasant, about the person you love, remember a joke that you recently laughed out loud at. You won’t even notice how you start smiling.

7. “Mirror” your counterpart

They smile at you - smile back. You are drinking coffee together, and your counterpart puts down the cup - do the same. You may even risk repeating a gesture that is not directed directly at you - for example, also fixing your hair. In this way, you let your counterparts understand that you are at the same time, together, “on the same wavelength.” But be careful! This is a real trick that only works when it is not obvious. If your interlocutor catches you trying to “mirror” his behavior, he will most likely feel that you are trying to laugh at him by parodying his mannerisms.