How to make a beautiful proposal to a girl to meet. How to beautifully ask a girl to meet: practical tips and recommendations. Say these words already: “Let’s meet”
Why do the most desperate guys suddenly begin to give in before asking the girl they like to date?
There are two reasons for this:
- a person experiences timidity not at all in front of a weaker, from a physical point of view, creature, but in front of his own feelings, that is, nascent love;
- a man by nature is a conqueror, so it is psychologically difficult for him to suddenly be rejected.
It is worth adding to this that love between people arises so that a family can subsequently be formed. Moreover, this feeling gives us some “testing balls” in the form of teenage love, which rarely results in a lasting attachment and leads to family relationships. First love often puts us through a test of feelings, does not come true, leaving wounds in the soul. But that's no reason not to try. Maybe you are the chosen one of fate who will have to enter into a marriage with your first love. It would be foolish to turn away from this chance. Besides, nothing in this life is in vain, and if you feel the need to date this particular girl, then it’s still worth a try.
Of course, this does not apply to those situations when you are impatient to start a relationship simply because your friends are already dating someone, and you don’t have a date even on the horizon. Starting a relationship just to show that you are no worse than others is simply deception and dishonesty towards the girl you are fooling.
How to start dating a girl
It's another matter if you really like a girl. Even if she is modest and homely, she may not be a source of pride for you, but she will become the only desirable person with whom you would like to be alone. You need to listen not to public opinion that “it would be nice to tie up this cutie,” but to your heart.
Sort out your feelings and make a firm decision
Before you decide to propose dating, understand for yourself why you need it:
- to be no worse than friends;
- to look good next to a beauty;
- to be closer to the one you have been interested in for a long time.
Only the last answer will be correct. If it is the girl herself that is dear to you, and not the fact that there is a creature of the weaker sex nearby, then this will be the true reason for which you can decide to confess.
Plan your proposal
Guys play out thousands of times in their minds how they will make this proposal, and you shouldn’t be an exception either. At the same time, you need to count on the fact that you may get a refusal. Of course, youthful maximalism and male pride can take their toll, and such a refusal may seem tantamount to a final break. But how much can be lost from this! After all, the girl may change her mind later. Besides, at the moment she could just be shy, or maybe you just didn’t have time to charm her with anything. While you're both young, you have about a thousand or more chances to try to make things work. You just have to come from the other side every time. And there are many of these sides too. Not just “black” and “white”. The world is colorful and there are many shades in it. Try, try, and you will always find the color that she loves. And she will fly to him like a bee to a flower that has more honey nectar.
These reasonings mean that in addition to the only plan “A”, there must be a plan “B”, and so on. We have been endowed with a fairly long alphabet and an almost endless series of numbers. So there should be a lot of plans, and they must be worthy, that is, in none of them there should be a hint of revenge for another refusal.
Accept any of her answers with dignity.
You can only take revenge for a public refusal, when you were humiliated in front of your friends, and what is even more offensive - in front of your enemies. But this “little revenge” is planned only if you no longer want to associate yourself with this special one. And if you have a new passion on the horizon, then under no circumstances involve her in this plan of revenge. This is undignified and can lead to the rupture of new relationships.
If the girl refused delicately, then there is actually nothing to take revenge on her for. It's a simple right to love someone else or take time out to sort out your own feelings.
If you were reciprocated, then in this situation you should not give vent to your emotions to such an extent that you start dancing a jig in front of the girl or swearing contentedly. Such ardor can simply repel or frighten your chosen one. Yes, it was a crazy success for you, and that's great! But it’s not worth presenting yourself as the craziest, or even a maniac.
If you yourself are afraid of your own feelings, then you can use the old method: “paper will endure anything.” Our distant ancestors used letters if they were afraid to make eye contact, declaring their love or proposing to meet. Now, in addition to paper, thanks to new technologies, there are several more ways to make an offer in absentia.
On the Internet: VKontakte or other social network
This method is good if your chosen one is a fan of communicating on social networks. And only if you know the girl well. If you just find her VKontakte page and write that you would like to meet, then you may be mistaken for a person with sexual deviations or something like that. Also, the girl may not take this proposal seriously. Therefore, it is better to first just make acquaintances on a social network, communicating on neutral topics.
And the proposal should be beautifully arranged so that it can be compared with a presented bouquet of flowers. For example, send a charming landscape and against its background - poems that touch the soul.
Make an offer via SMS or phone
You can use this way not only social networks, but also your mobile phone. For example, put poetry in an SMS, or even better - in an MMS. If you know a girl, and the only thing that scares you is not the speed of her reaction, but her appraising gaze, then you can simply call her and offer to go somewhere together. And you can make a confession both over the phone and during this meeting, if it takes place.
During a one-on-one meeting
Even if it so happens that you met in person, but you are shy, then just lower your gaze, as if thinking, and ask if the girl wants to date you. Only the meeting should not take place in some prosaic place, but, for example, in a gazebo over the water, against the backdrop of a beautiful landscape, or in a cozy cafe over a cup of tea or a portion of ice cream. The atmosphere should be relaxed, so you shouldn’t invite your future girlfriend to an expensive restaurant or an expensive trip. This can also cause tension and create the impression that you are buying the person’s favor.
How to beautifully ask a girl to meet so that she agrees
A woman, no matter what age she is, is a true esthete. Therefore, the proposal on your part should be presented beautifully. And to finally hook this person, do it in an unusual way. Banality is a bad companion for romantic relationships.
Original proposal on a date
If you can arrange an invitation to a date using a sent bouquet, an envelope sealed with gold thread and postal sealing wax, as well as a simulated telegram, then what to do when you have already met? After all, a single date does not mean the start of a long-term relationship. We need to somehow offer the girl an original idea to spend more time together. One good way is to show up on a date with a guitar or other musical instrument and serenade her with a serenade of your own composition. Only in this case you must be good at playing the instrument, so as not to cause laughter or outright regret on the part of your new friend.
If you are not good at music, but can recite well, then you can read her poems of your own composition. Of course, you can take a passage from one of the classics as a basis, but at the same time not read poetry, as in school at the blackboard, but as a famous theater actor would do it - with all the storm of emotions, with Moscow Art Theater pauses, with accents. In general, you will have to rehearse carefully in order to be appreciated. And if you read prose - Bulgakov, Bunin, Nabokov... The girl will be delighted with your memory. But don’t memorize passages that are too long: it’s tiring for both you and the listener. In addition, ordinary envy can work here, which will replace admiration. Suddenly, the girl could never remember a single verse at school or was embarrassed to read them at the blackboard. And then the prose bounces off your teeth!
Romantic proposal to meet in verse
Poems in themselves are more romantic than prose. You know how to write them yourself, and your successes are appreciated by others - this is your plus and your trump card. Indeed, it is worth taking up the recitation of classical poetry only if you have a minimum of acting abilities. You can read your own verse with less pathos - it will still be appreciated.
But what to do if you are not a poet from birth? Sometimes an excess of feelings pushes a person to do something he has never done before. And you can come up with wonderful poems. And let this verse be the only one in life, but it will be successful. Sometimes it borders on genius.
However, the muse does not visit people with enviable regularity, and may not come to you at all. Then all that remains is to go online for the verse. Let’s make a reservation right away: taking a ready-made confession-offer from a popular youth site is the worst option. Imagine how many people like you will read the same poem to their beloved girl at the same time. And if yesterday or the day before yesterday the gentleman she rejected approached your chosen one with these same verses, and now you present her with the same thing? You won’t even understand the meaning of why the girl felt so funny. You may think that you yourself are pathetic in front of her. And she finds it funny because you and the loser “composed” photocopied poems.
If you’re going to use the Internet, it’s better to order a poem on a special website. By the way, to be sure, it is better to check it with an anti-plagiarism program. This way you will understand whether these poems were published somewhere else, or whether the order was made for you personally. After all, the performer will also be tempted not to write himself, but to take little-known lines from the same Alexander Blok, for example, and pass them off as his own original verse, composed just for you. It’s even better to compose haiku, the national Japanese verse of three lines, than to use a large, replicated verse.
For example, like this:
Sakura petal flies
Catching up with the other one
To continue the journey together.
Beautiful, but a little sad. There are only three lines, and they can only contain a hint that you want to be with this girl. But even such a hint can be understood.
You can add a little humor:
How the thread follows the needle,
Like waves rushing behind a steamer,
That's how I would like to be with you,
And always be, not in passing.
It is not necessary to use a poetic form to propose meetings. There are phrases that work almost flawlessly. This does not mean that the above expressions need to be memorized. This is just an example of how to be unobtrusive at the same time, but at the same time show your interest in this particular girl.
The most popular words and phrases for the best offer
“It seems to me that I feel something more for you than ordinary friendly feelings,” this is what you can say to a girl with whom you are in the same company. If this is your colleague, then simply tell her: “I think our relationship could be less formal. Maybe we can go to lunch together?” Such an offer, on the one hand, does not oblige you to anything, on the other hand, you will show that you are not indifferent to the person.
But immediately offering to go to a restaurant is unnecessary. Especially if the girl herself is still young and could never afford to dine in such establishments. Your task is to hook, not overwhelm with luxury. Therefore, you don’t need to immediately say that you would like her to become your destiny, or that you alone decided (on your own) that you should date. It’s also not worth swearing that you will make your chosen one a hundred times happier than she is now. Just give her the right to choose and time to think. Otherwise, you can simply scare away your crush.
How to become a couple if you are friends
When you have been friends for a long time, go hiking together or wander around your hometown, and in the usual company, it can be difficult to change the status “to your friend’s board.” But if it happened that yesterday’s girlfriend suddenly became your beloved, then you need to act. The most interesting thing is that in this case you can get closer somehow smoothly, without even separating the two periods in time - friendly and love. Of course, you can immediately dot all the “e”s and say that for some time now you see in her more than just a sociable girl. But if you don’t dare, then you can do differently.
When you already spend time in the same company, you can simply find yourself near your beloved a little more often. Offering her an umbrella when rain poured from a clear sky, treating her to ice cream, lending her mittens if it became cold, giving her a hand when she needs to get over, albeit a small, obstacle - these and similar signs of attention contribute to a smooth rapprochement.
If you are in a large company, then no one will immediately notice that you and the girl have decided to be alone in order to start a conversation that is interesting to both of you. It is not necessary to devote it to your relationship right away. It just might be a topic that she and you like. If this continues from time to time, then your mutual friends will gradually get used to the fact that a “couple” has formed in the company, with whom “everything is clear.”
Unnoticed, you can thus move to permanent residence with this girl or settle her with you. And then you will become a successful couple. Without strain, without emotions and other things. And you ask: where is the beauty of feelings? Why did everything suddenly happen on its own? You just gave the lady a reason to understand that there is a real knight next to her. And even if there was no serenade, haiku, or poetry, your actions said more than could be expressed in words.
Sometimes guys who are committed to a serious relationship cannot make the first move first. This is due to the fact that they are afraid of being rejected. Well, if you don’t offer to date your chosen one, then someone else, a more confident young man, will do it.
Therefore, you need to take the bull by the horns and act before it is too late.
How to win a woman's sympathy?
Do you like a girl, but you don't know how to win her favor? Everything is very simple. Here you need to adhere to some rules.
Excessive attention is harmful
Yes, yes, it really works, both with men and girls.
You need to show that you don't care about her. Some young ladies are accustomed to the fact that a man always makes the first step, takes the initiative, looks after and shows signs of attention.
Sometimes the female sex is dependent on this. Well, you can pay attention to her, but not fulfill her various whims.
Important! Stand out more from the rest of the gray mass. Then she will notice you.
More humor and jokes
You need to joke well and appropriately. You should be noticed not only by the object of sympathy, but also by the whole company.
You can also come up with an original phrase that will make the girl laugh. The main thing is to make her smile. The Internet will help you.
Nice appearance
Ladies like well-groomed young men who take care of themselves and their speech:
- The body and hair must be clean.
- If you are growing a beard, you must take care of it (neatness doesn’t hurt).
- Don't forget about ironed clothes and clean shoes.
- And of course, to add some zest - the pleasant smell of perfume. Girls love it when a man emits a bright and tasty aroma.
Communication skills
You must communicate freely, easily find topics for conversation and not let the lady of your heart get bored.
Reference! This quality should be demonstrated not only to the chosen one, but also to everyone around.
Erudition
A person with a rich inner world always attracts attention. You always want to listen and listen to such people. A very good quality to win a girl's heart.
How to win a woman's favor is explained in the video:
When should you move on to the next stage of your relationship?
« Offer to meet" is a phrase that implies a serious, meaningful relationship. Of course, at the age of 12 or 13 there can be no talk of seriousness. This kind of love is more childish and naive. These are walks, gatherings in cafes, visiting attractions.
But adult couples are already seriously preparing to take such a step in their lives.
Before asking a girl to date, you need to think carefully. Did you make the right choice? Usually guys are in a hurry with such a serious step, and the relationship ultimately does not lead to anything positive.
Important! To be 100% sure of your choice, you need to make sure of the sincerity of your feelings and the feelings of your chosen one.
Before making such an offer to a girl, make sure that she is also serious about you. If she has warm and mutual feelings for you, then you can act.
Another important factor is not to rush:
- After the second or third date, you shouldn’t immediately take the second step. You and the girl need to get closer.
- You need to gradually and slowly get to know each other, what interests you have in common, what you like and don’t like, etc.
Reference! Usually haste occurs as a result of deceptive and fictitious feelings. Everything should take its course.
What exactly should you not do?
Unsuccessful actions and phrases:
- You shouldn’t act like a tough macho and use inappropriate words for such a sentence. Example: “You are very hot and I like you. We should try to make it happen." This is exactly what you can’t do. This will only push the girl away from you. On such a day, you should be more romantic in nature, even if in ordinary life you like to pretend to be the bad guy.
- It’s not nice to ask a girl to meet via VKontakte or phone messages (unless you are 12 years old, of course). From the outside, this method looks comical and frivolous.
- Also, don't be pushy. He offered it once, the girl said “no”, she would have to accept this answer and let her go. And if you ask the same thing every day, try to woo her, she will simply hate you and stop all communication.
- There is no need to beg for a positive answer. Example : “I like you, be my girlfriend please.” Please say yes. Please please"
This is a very bad option. The opinion about you will immediately change and the chosen one will rush to leave you alone.
Examples of the best phrases
Beautiful and romantic
If you and the girl have mutual feelings, but no one hastened to take the first step, then take this matter upon yourself.
The main thing is to do it in a beautiful and romantic setting, young ladies love pleasant and unexpected surprises:
- An excellent option would be to have an evening dinner on the roof with a beautiful view of the city. How everything will go, how you decorate the meeting place, depends only on you, the main thing is romance. Such a pleasant atmosphere will inspire warm and correct words, and the girl’s answer will not keep you waiting long.
- You can also go on a boat ride, take a walk under the moon, go to the beach, go horseback riding, etc.
Which phrase is not advisable to use:
"Let's meet"- the most banal words. You are not fourteen years old to use exactly this option.
What phrases can you use:
- “You look wonderful today, as always. You know, we have become so close during our communication that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend?
- “The best moments in my life are with you. And I want there to be even more moments like this, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend.”
- “This is the first time I feel these feelings. To be needed by a person, sometimes to become confused and stupid. Even now I'm terribly worried. But I like it. I want you to be my girlfriend"
Reference! It is not necessary that the phrase be exactly like this. The main thing is to express what you feel for your chosen one. Be sincere.
How to ask a girl to date is explained in the video:
Original
Offer to meet in an original way, what could be better? No words are even needed here.
- Quest. At the moment it is the most optimal and interesting option. You can come up with it yourself or seek help from specialists. The most important thing is that the quest is romantic, but at the same time incredibly interesting. Don't forget about the highlight at the very end - a declaration of feelings.
- Video. Make a short film with your photos, and also record your own video where you confess your feelings. And then you can show it on a projector.
- Flash mob. Also a very unusual option. Only here you will need to try to organize everything. A lot of people will need to be involved.
You can also take her to a crazy attraction, a dolphinarium, or even offer her a trip to another city. It all depends on your desire and imagination.
In verse
The easiest way. If you are a very romantic person at heart and love poetry, then go for it. The main thing is that the verse must be read with all your heart, clearly and clearly.
Poem example:
“Let's meet you!
I want to be with you
Throwing flowers
Giving you love!...”
Be sure to add something of your own at the end. And it’s best if it’s your own poem.
Can I offer it on VK or by phone?
You can offer to meet by correspondence if you are no more than sixteen years old.
Reference! This option is most likely suitable for school age, when the guy is still insecure and very shy.
Between the ages of 12 and 15, young people are afraid of being rejected, afraid of seeming stupid. Therefore, it often happens that if the object of sympathy refuses, when they meet in person, the young men say that it was a joke (or the addressee was mistaken).
Watch a video that tells you how to date properly at 14:
An offer over the phone is also considered not the best option. After all, if the girl agrees, then you will not see the joy on her face, you will not be able to hug and kiss each other.
But if you still decide, then:
- Speak clearly and tenderly;
- Do not interrupt your chosen one;
- Pause and wait for her response;
Well, in general, you can only hint at such an offer over the phone, and the process itself can be carried out in person.
In general, such things are done live. It’s better to overcome your embarrassment and appear before the girl as a self-confident guy. Then there will be more chances for a positive answer.
The main thing is to be confident.
Down with all embarrassment! It's time to become a real man and do beautiful things for the sake of the one who sympathizes with you.
Speak.
Ladies love to listen with their ears and do not like incomprehensible hints. You must always say directly and clearly: what you think, what you want and what you feel.
Care.
Don't forget to show you care. It’s not difficult to call and find out how she’s doing, how her day went, or how she’s feeling. Or maybe she needs help, and you will come in handy.
And also a few rules:
- Don't forget about appearance;
- Choose the right moment;
- Be yourself;
- Smile more;
So, to ask a girl out, you don’t have to move mountains and do crazy things. The main thing is to show her your attention and your serious intentions.
Don’t forget that you shouldn’t suggest meeting via VK correspondence; it’s better to do it in person, looking into each other’s eyes.
Have a romantic evening, choose beautiful words and act. If you adhere at least a little to the simplest rules, then everything will be crowned with success.
Are you interested in the question? how to ask a girl to date? Then you've come to the right site. Here you will find the answer to your question and understand what to do and what not to do.
Why do I say that you have come to the right site? Yes, because only here you will find advice that really works. All other sites answer this question, giving different techniques and templates on how to beautifully confess your feelings and try to establish a closer relationship. But nowhere is it written that we should offer to meet not at all necessary. Moreover, it can even cause harm. Read on and you will understand what you really need to do.
To correctly answer your question, you must first consider the situation in general, because in different situations you need to act a little differently. Your behavior will depend on how attractive this girl is to you. Therefore, we will consider all the options, and you choose the one that is most suitable for your situation.
1. A girl likes you
First, let's consider the option when you clearly see that the girl likes you. This manifests itself in many ways. For example: she herself makes contact more often, does not avoid you, tries to be with you, smiles at you. In general, it is clear that the girl wants the relationship to develop, and you yourself are not against it. What to do in this case and how to invite her to meet?
Counterquestion: why make any formal proposals? Wouldn't this be superfluous? Won't this create additional problems? If you come up and tell her directly, “Let’s go out with you,” she might get scared. Perhaps she is not at that stage of readiness yet and needs to get to know you a little better. You definitely don’t need a refusal in this situation.
Don't waste words. Better just invite her for a walk. Then invite me again. And again. If she (and you) like it, why complicate everything with official proposals. Walk, have fun, develop relationships. You are already dating and no additional confirmation is needed.
Very often a guy wants to ask a girl to meet in order to put everything exactly in its place and “stake out” his right to access the body. That is, to receive a kind of reinforcement, additional confidence. But if a girl likes you, then you practically already have access to the body. Just try to reduce the distance between you. Everything will come out naturally and as it should. But this is a topic for a separate article.
In general, if your chosen one likes you, then there is no point in proposing a relationship at all. Just enjoy it. In fact, most guys who are successful with the opposite sex never make a formal relationship proposal. They just go out with the girls, and everything works out on its own. If you don’t consider yourself a genius in the art of seduction, the article How to date a girl will help you. It describes all the main mistakes that guys make at the stage of closer relationships and describes how to avoid these mistakes.
2. You're not sure if a girl likes you
If you are not sure that a girl likes you and you are not sure that she is interested in a relationship with you, you should not say anything to her. Under no circumstances should you ask her to meet. By proposing a relationship, you will show that you are more interested in her than she is in you. After all, it’s you who are offering... She automatically takes the position of choosing. And this is a strong position...
The guy finds himself in a dependent position. For a guy, such a dependent position usually does not bring anything good. Girls don't like to see guys in weak positions. The guy should initially be an independent leader and leader. These are the kind of males that women like. And by putting yourself in the position of a supplicant, you yourself will show that you are not a leader.
Besides, if you propose a relationship, you will reveal your cards. This, of course, is not as scary as a direct declaration of love, but still it is unnecessary.
What to do in this case? Continue to communicate with her and continue to achieve your male goal - to look for resources and develop. Read How to get a girl to like you? in order to understand what a man should do to attract females. When you learn this and start putting it into practice, you will see how girls will be drawn to you. You won't have to offer them anything, they will be the ones seeking your attention. This is the most correct state of affairs.
3. You know for sure that you don’t like me.
If you know for sure that you don’t like him, then there is no point in proposing a relationship at all. Failure guaranteed. On many forums you can find advice like: “Offer to date, she will appreciate your courage and perhaps agree.” But in real life this doesn't work. If a girl doesn't like you, then all your efforts will be wasted. You can step over your fears at least 1000 times, but the result will always be the same.
This approach generally contradicts the main male goal - the search for resources. A man should not run after girls, he should look for resources! The girls themselves will begin to give such a guy signals of attention.
She doesn’t care what you went through there and what you went through in yourself. If she is not attracted to you as a man, then no amount of words will make her respond positively to you. Well, maybe: “Baby, would you like to take a ride in my new Mercedes?”
Proposing a relationship without any reason is a waste of time and humiliation of your male self. You will just get another scar on your heart. Refusals do not do anything good for a man.
What to do? Better change your focus and find that girl who will show interest in you. But she doesn’t need to say anything either. Read points 1 and 2 again :)
4. You are friends
A fairly standard situation, but no less sad for that. You like a girl, but she added you to her friends list. In other words, you are in the Friend Zone. Is it worth offering to meet in this case? The answer is no, you don't need to do this. Why? You can read the answer above. She's not attracted to you as a man and right now there's nothing you can do about it.
What should I do? The advice is similar: become more attractive to girls, develop yourself, look for resources. Perhaps after a while she will pay attention to you... But will you be interested in a relationship? This is a big question.
conclusions
So, what conclusion can we draw? Words are not so important - actions are important. If a girl likes you, date her. Everything will work out by itself and no words can replace real emotions and feelings. If you feel good together, words are not needed.
If you don’t like it, shut up and work on yourself. Achieve your goals in life, develop, become what girls want. If you don’t know how to do this, read other articles on our website. They will help you become a real Alpha.
Practice:
One of the most important webinars for guys, one might say the base! You will begin to understand the actions of girls and why they act the way they do. You will be able to identify what kind of girl is in front of you, what to expect from her and how to behave. You will also find out which women you should attract into your life, and which ones you should avoid at all costs. In general, you will learn everything about the beautiful halves of humanity :) Forewarned is forearmed!
When a guy is crazy about a girl, he unconsciously feels afraid to ask her out. This is due to the fact that the young man is afraid of rejection, as a result of which his hopes and feelings will sink into oblivion. If you really want to create a couple with the lady of your heart, you will have to take a risk. We have collected 3 effective methods: ordinary, non-standard and sincere. Let's consider each of them in order.
Method 1: Normal
Step #1. Get to know each other better
Start a full-scale operation to get to know the object of your adoration better. From now on, greet her at every opportunity, start unobtrusive conversations. Discuss the weather, animals, studies. Choose neutral topics, try to keep her nearby for a while. Tell us about an interesting book you read or share the release of new episodes of a popular TV series. Stay on topic.
If the lady of your heart studies with you at school or college and is constantly among friends, get to know her friends. This way you will become closer to the girl and gain the favor of your friends. This will count in the future. Approach the company more often, talk with those present, but do not forget, the main attention should be paid to the object of sympathy.
Step #2. Come up with a strategy
Think in advance about the setting in which you will invite her on a first date, what you will wear, and take care of interesting topics for conversation. Work to ensure that the proposal does not look frivolous, rehearse your speech.
As a venue for a date, you can choose a cozy cafe without a large crowd of people. If you are sure that the lady loves sushi, check out the Japanese restaurants in the city.
The cinema is considered a banal way. First, make sure that the girl likes the film, only then buy tickets. Otherwise, avoid this option.
Step #3. Be alone with her
Wait until the girl is alone. There is no need to embarrass her in front of strangers by inviting her to spend time together. Find the right moment and act. The proposal should be made after an unobtrusive conversation.
In cases where you can’t be alone, start a conversation in the company of friends. Let her know that you want to chat with her later. There is no need to be nervous, stay positive so as not to scare the girl away.
Set a non-romantic meeting place. For example, agree to meet at the gates of the institute, place of work or supermarket.
Step #4. Focus on important things
You have already prepared the ground, all you have to do is wait for the meeting. When the girl arrives at the appointed place, ask how the day went and what unusual happened. Make fun of her, but not rudely, then tell her about your business. Perhaps the two of you have common interests, the discussion of which would not be superfluous. You need to relax the lady and carefully touch on an exciting topic.
Smoothly transition to romantic subtext. Make it clear without any hint that you have a lot in common and get along great. This topic should be raised at the moment when there was a joke that made you both laugh. Celebrate similarities in views and sense of humor. Express yourself as usual, do not dramatize, but state the fact. Get the girl into her head that you are a great match.
Step #5. Express your feelings
When the lady confirms that you are a great friend, offer her more. Confess your feelings, but don't push. Let her know that you want to see her as a companion and want to invite her on a first date. Speak sincerely, and in a joking manner clarify that refusal is not accepted. It won't feel like pressure if you do it right.
The lady may fall into a stupor, don’t be nervous, wait. If she agrees, exhale, smile, and you can pick her up. Prove that you are serious. Even a victory dance from a peacock would do if you wish.
If the answer is negative, thank the girl for her honesty and express your understanding. Don't question or blame her.
Method 2: Non-standard
Step #1. Make a connection
The method is to project a situation where a lady is interested in a secret admirer. The operation can be started only after personal contact. Start talking to her every day, joke and tease each other, evoke positive emotions.
You must be able to establish a conversation and make it interesting, make the girl laugh and feel comfortable. Show interest in communicating with her, but don’t go overboard. Flirt, touch your hand “casually” and lean lower to better hear the phrase.
When all the points are completed, you can act on behalf of the secret admirer. It is better if the girl in the future guesses who he is. She must wait for further developments. Create a unique game.
Step #2. Write a letter
Add some mystery to your courtship by sending the lady a romantic message. The letter is intended to arouse interest, but its content should not be too loving.
You can compose a poem mentioning the girl’s name, but you shouldn’t sign it yourself. Write casually with a touch of humor, avoid loud declarations of love.
You should not present yourself as a maniac stalking the victim day and night. Don't apply pressure. Don't forget about flirting, intrigue her so that the girl wants more.
Step #3. Give a gift
There is no need to give expensive gifts like perfume, bouquets of roses or jewelry. Choose cute options that will make her smile. Otherwise, courtship will be like bribery.
Pay attention to behavior. If the girl tears the envelope upon receiving the message, stop courting. In cases where she begins to avoid you, clarify the situation and apologize. If everything is in order and the lady reads them with pleasure, continue.
Step #4. Reveal your personality with hints
When communicating with a girl, gradually begin to reveal yourself. Don't talk about it directly, casually quote a phrase from a letter or ask if she likes Kinder (all girls love them). At this stage, you need to bring her to the point where you admit your feelings openly.
There is no need to delay with notes so that the lady does not lose interest. Care for her in this way for 2-3 weeks.
Step #5. Expose yourself
Write a final letter requesting a meeting. Choose a suitable location and clothing. Tell the girl the distinctive features by which she can recognize you. Express your desire to date her by stating this in a message.
Example: “Hey, it’s time to give up secrecy and reveal your identity. I want to ask you out on a date. I will wait for a personal answer in the cafe “...” on the street...”. The job is done, all that remains is to wait. Buy her a beautiful bouquet as a wooing gesture. Give it as a gift if you agree or refuse.
Method 3: Sincere
Step #1. Become good friends
First you need to become friends, this will take some time. The girl should feel safe and trust you completely. There is a likely risk of being just a friend forever, but it's worth a try. Communicate in general company, gradually getting to know each other.
Step #2. Spend more time alone
The moment will come when you can calmly communicate without third parties. Invite her to a movie or ask her for help choosing a new shirt. Buy medicine if she gets sick, laugh and have fun in a normal environment without a hint of more.
Tell her that a new cafe has opened nearby and invite her to try their dishes. Visit a theater, exhibition or entertainment show together. Pay for tickets, don't take no for an answer, be gallant.
Step #3. Give a gift
Give her a beautiful bracelet after a long period of your friendship, buy delicious cupcakes or a box of chocolates. You can give gifts for no reason, saying that you want to see her happy. Buy a soft toy, call it your name, let it become your joke. You can also give the lady a kitten or a parrot, thereby causing a storm of emotions.
Step #4. Show your sympathy
On your next day together, ask her to take a minute for a serious conversation. Grab her attention and tell her you like her. Don't beat around the bush, express your thoughts clearly. Don't mumble, but don't push either. Make it clear that the girl is an integral part of your life. For this reason, you want to take her on your first real date with a nice dinner and some candles.
To invite the lady of your heart on a date, use one of the proposed options. A classic of the genre suitable for shy young ladies. The role of a secret admirer is suitable for girls with a sense of humor. The sincere method will work on young people who do not have much experience in terms of relationships. Make contact, stay positive and proceed with caution.
Video: how to ask a girl to date
Sometimes acquaintance and the communication situation are so vague that it becomes necessary to “secure” the right to personal communication with a girl by making her an offer to meet.
In most cases, the problem of how to ask a girl to date is irrelevant, because officialdom and a proposal in a serious form are more suitable for a marriage proposal. In the modern world, the transition from friendly relationships to more personal ones increasingly takes place without unnecessary “honors.” Sometimes attitude speaks louder than words. On the other hand, if you see a girl regularly, spend a lot of time together, are always “in touch,” then it’s clearly too late to propose to a girl. The relationship took shape without an official proposal. An offer to date a girl when the next stage in the development of meetings should be an engagement or wedding may look even more unfortunate.
Among teenagers, “let’s meet” is probably the most common thing to hear. This is a kind of ritual that is necessary because it is easier to understand a girl’s attitude towards a guy, without direct confession of feelings. It will be interesting for every teenager to know how to ask a girl to date if their friendships have begun to turn into something more personal.
Before you propose to date and become a couple, you need to understand what obligations this status imposes on you.
- pay attention to a girl or girl, devoting part of your free time to relationships;
- congratulate you on holidays, pamper you with surprises and gifts;
- to be one in problems, conflicts, to be responsible for the girl’s safety.
- do not flirt, do not show ambiguous signs of attention to other members of the fair sex if you are “in” a relationship. This is disrespect for your other half.
- attend entertainment events, friends’ birthdays and other meetings with the girl.
Everything is very simple and even primitive, but such points are worth mentioning.
No matter how wonderful the moment is when a guy explains his feelings to his girlfriend face to face, the presence of the Internet inevitably changes life. Nowadays there are practically no young people who are not registered on any social network. Therefore, the question naturally arises: “How can it be nice to ask a girl to meet using social networks, and is it worth doing it virtually? Well, this is not the best way, because it reeks of cowardice and psychological immaturity. However, he has the right to life. Perhaps the option of inviting the person you like to a meeting through social networks will be much more advantageous, then the refusal will not be particularly upsetting due to the lack of direct contact. An offer to become a couple through VK, for example, may be appropriate if you are having a good time over several dates, and the next meeting has already been scheduled. In this case, the girl will have time to weigh her decision and calmly understand herself. A direct question: “do you want to be my girlfriend?” can so stun an unprepared soulmate that she will say something completely different from what is on her mind, but will repeat some pattern she heard from her friends.
If the situation requires a direct explanation, then before you propose to a girl, remember the following points:
When inviting a girl to date, that is, to switch to the status of a “couple,” you need to:
- express yourself as clearly and clearly as possible. She must understand exactly what she is talking about. A too verbose, veiled conversation can lead a young lady to believe that she is being offered marriage, or is hinting at intimacy, or wants to end the relationship, so they are flattering her before breaking up. At special moments, girls begin to get nervous and then what they hear is perceived in too two ways. Less verbal lace - more specifics.
- choose the words and prepare a small surprise, a gift or something similar that will reinforce your words and remind the girl of such a wonderful moment. You can do without this kind of sentimentality, but this nice little thing (by no means an expensive gift) is a witness to your offer. It's more logical and interesting.
- avoid alcohol, smoking during a conversation, and (if possible) gestures that indicate excitement. Let at this moment you become a model of masculinity and self-confidence for the chosen one. Sometimes self-control and overconfidence can work to your advantage. A bottle of champagne, flowers and chocolate are a standard set for such a situation, but it is better to go beyond the standards.
How can you ask a girl to date you if the standard options are not for you?
For those who are not afraid of difficulties, there is an option to persuade acquaintances and friends and, with their help, organize a flash mob for your chosen one. Any girl will remember and appreciate such an event, even if something doesn’t go according to plan. Let friends dance, sing, recite a line from a poem, or simply come out with signs (on which something original will be written about the proposal to date) to the girl’s windows.
If you suspect reciprocity on the part of the chosen person, but shyness prevents you from taking the first step, a good solution would be a video recording or presentation with an original question that will dot the i’s. What can be used for such a handmade message? Favorite music, good poems or aphorisms, beautiful photos and romantic pictures. Perhaps later this will become part of your family archive. By the way, even the cover of the disc can be designed individually for the selected girl, since her photo can always be obtained from social networks and creatively processed with special applications. This is the most touching option on how to beautifully propose to a girl. You can “touch it with your hands”, i.e. have proof of your feelings and review it many times - which your chosen one will undoubtedly do.
How to ask a girl to meet: phrases, the right words
Of course, the classic version will never become outdated. Making a date and proposing to a girl to meet in a romantic setting is the right decision.
The only thing left to do is to choose words so that they don’t sound banal, like in soap operas or TV series for teenagers. There is a unique phrase, most original in its laconicism: “Let’s switch to we!” The main thing is that such words are spoken with feeling, then they will be heard and understood correctly.
- “I think we make a great couple, what do you think?”
- “There is a vacant position for my girlfriend. How do you like this position?
- “I really value the time we spend together, I want no one to steal you away inadvertently. Be my girlfriend?"
Whatever words you choose to explain, be sincere and the result will certainly please you.